April Goals: Review

This month I blew my own mind!
Not just because I achieved all of my goals, but because of how I achieved them all.

These are the goals I set for April:

1. I will easily create 7 live videos (on Facebook or Instagram) by April 30, 2020.
   Completed!

   My friend Nicole Middleton challenged me to do this. The first 6 days were torture, and I was vowing to never do another livestream ever again. I thought about telling Nicole I wasn’t feeling well. But I convinced myself not to – I knew that the habit of the habit was more important than the habit itself. Then the 7th day, I actually enjoyed it. Now I make them all the time. I did at least 15!

2. I will easily heal my shoulder injury 100% by April 30, 2020.
   Completed!

   Earlier in the year I injured myself doing push ups, and then aggravated my shoulder further with too much work at a computer. I've seen a physiotherapist (online) and it's finally on the mend, thank goodness. Nothing is going to hold me back from my impossible goal of doing 100 push ups in a row – I will hopefully be able to get back into training soon!

3. I will easily join a volunteer project by April 30, 2020.
   Completed!

   One of my main passions and missions is to create a world where animals are not unnecessarily harmed, so I will be volunteering for The Vegan Society. I’m super excited about this opportunity to contribute! I spent all month wondering what volunteer project to join (and I originally enquired to Age Concern NZ about telephoning elderly people weekly to keep them from being too isolated during lockdown, but they didn’t need any extra volunteers).
   

4. I will easily complete reading 3 full books by April 30, 2020.
   Completed!

   I half-read three books, and yesterday I imagined writing this saying “I didn’t achieve this, but I’ll try harder next time.” And then I thought, I could just try harder this time. It’s not over till it’s over. And I still had 24 hours. I actually did it! This must be the most reading I’ve crammed into one day in years. But it was so worth it. Because it’s not about reading – it’s about deciding to be the person that I want to be. How will I achieve my impossible goals if I can’t even follow through with my monthly goals? I’ve decided I’m the kind of person who commits and follows through with her goals.
   The books I read were:
   – Grit by Angela Duckworth
   – The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
   – Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

5. I will easily join a business program to advance my skills by April 30, 2020.
   Completed!

   I joined Stacey Boehman's 2k for 2k program. This was a mission and a half because things turned upside with lockdown. But I was so damn committed to this. I wanted it bad. I got creative. I made it work. (Even if the money accidentally went into the wrong bank account, oops – it got sorted eventually!).

I’m looking forward to sharing my May goals with you tomorrow (this year is going so quickly!).

I'll Do Whatever It Takes

April is almost up, and I still haven’t completed two of my April Goals.

I haven’t read three books yet (I’ve half-read three different books).
And I also haven’t joined a volunteer project yet.

I had a thought today, like "I'm just gonna give up, there's no way I can read three books in a day and also join a volunteer project.”

And then there was this inner voice.

"Watch me."

When my intuition talks, I listen.

Why should I finish these silly books, it won't really impact anything, right? Wrong. Because I desire to be THE KIND OF PERSON who can achieve any goal she sets her mind to.

How on earth will I ever achieve my impossible goals if I'm not 100% committed to my smaller goals?

If I set a goal, I'm busting my booty to achieve it, right till the last minute, I’ve decided that’s just who I am. I don't give up.

So on that note: my next 24 hours is dedicated to finishing THREE books and joining a volunteer project. I’m going to do whatever it takes.

Looking forward to updating you tomorrow with my full April Goals review!

I Want to Live a Life of Risks and Bold Moves

I want to live a life of risks and bold moves.

• That's why I moved countries from NZ to England on a whim.

• That's why I got trained as a High Performance Coach in Arizona, despite the 5 figure price tag.

• That's why I set a goal to do 100 push ups in a row despite never having been able to do one in my life (and why I'm already at 50!).

I'm willing to bet that you're bold too.

We are defying norms, you and me.

We don't want to do mediocre things.

We want to do impossible things.

A Sneak Peek of My New Success Tool

Over the last few weeks I’ve gone into deep work mode, attempting to create a booklet to share a success tool that has been years in the making. I had written a 22-page word document that explained the tool in detail, and now I’ve turned it into a succinct workbook that encompasses the most essential ideas. It’s currently in the testing phase (aka, getting constructive feedback from my team).

I’m someone who gets really excited about my work, but this time I’m really, really excited to share this with you.

Coming soon… watch this space!

Can You Really Have It All?

I’m excellent at sticking to my goals and following through.
365 days of mediation in a row? Check.
260+ days of blogging in a row (so far) Check.
Working out every day this week? Check.

I’ve trained myself to stick to my commitments so well that in some cases, it actually causes problems.

I was on the phone to my one of my coaches (yes, I have several!), and in an instant, I realised that I had been sticking to a goal that is not serving me, just because I set it.

Creating weekly YouTube videos.

Don’t get me wrong, I really want to follow through with this. In fact, it’s almost painful to not follow through, because I feel like I’m letting myself down, especially because I set it as my New Years Resolution and I HATE breaking New Years Resolutions.

But I realised that although it is a goal of mine to reach 100k on YouTube, right now I can’t put 100% effort into my business goals if I am focusing energy on other things.

My coaching business is my absolute number one priority right now. And YouTube is a distraction.

So although I WILL go back to creating content weekly, for now, I am consciously choosing to set it aside in pursuit of something that is more important.

I once heard a quote that is “You can have it all. You just can’t have it all at once.” And I used to hate it, because I thought it was coming from a limiting belief, like, you can’t have the great relationship and great health and great career all at once. But now I realise that I misunderstood what the quote meant.

It really means that you can’t make it all happen at once. So yes, you can have the great body and gorgeous husband and thriving business– but if you try to focus on making them all happen in the same week, you will burn out and won’t get any of them. Build them up, one by one. THEN you can have it all at once.

So instead what we need to do instead is get LASER FOCUSED on an area. There is a reason, in my High Performance Coaching Program, that we focus on one area per week, and don’t try to do it all at once.

Laser focus means excluding everything in your life that is total BS or FLUFF.

What is BS or FLUFF in your life?

For me, it’s YouTube, it’s the Podcast that doesn’t exist yet that I can’t stop thinking about, it’s the emails I’ve been thinking about sending, it’s all the things I think I need to do but I totally don’t.

What fluffy BS do you need to cut out of your life right now to focus on your current goal?

Impossible Girls Facebook Group

I’ve finally created a free Facebook Group as a private space where women can come together to ask each other questions and share their challenges, get feedback and get free coaching from me.

I will be adding a lot of value in this group, including live trainings, so make sure if you’re a woman with big dreams, this is the place to be!

Join us here.

April Goals

A gorgeous sky at our house last night (no filter!)

Quarantine. Isolation. Lockdown. They used to be words I used to describe other people’s lives. Now they’re part of my daily life.

That means my goals are going to look a little bit different, they’re going to be more restorative than my usual go-go-go goals.

1. I will easily create 7 live videos (on Facebook or Instagram) by April 30, 2020.

2. I will easily heal my shoulder injury 100% by April 30, 2020.

3. I will easily join a volunteer project by April 30, 2020.

4. I will easily complete reading 3 full books by April 30, 2020.

5. I will easily join a business program to advance my skills by April 30, 2020.

What are your April goals? Let me know in the comments or send me a DM on Instagram.

March Goals Review

How did I go with my March goals?

Oh boy. It started out so great. It started out normal. Then March gave us a surprise we weren’t expecting: Coronavirus.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen my life turn upside down so rapidly.

With that in mind, here are my results from my March goals:

1. I will easily join a gym and go weekly by 31st March 2020.
   I did join the gym! Then I got a shoulder injury almost immediately, and decided to wait a week or two to begin. Then Coronavirus hit and it became clear I had to suddenly leave the UK and move back to New Zealand, pronto. Luckily, my gym membership was a pay monthly, cancel anytime offer. So I didn’t even manage to go to the gym once!

2. I will easily hit 60 push ups by 31st March 2020.
   Again, shoulder injury that almost immediately occurred. I began physiotherapy and then… coronavirus. Not achieved.

3. I will easily speak/do a talk in public by 31st March 2020.
   Yes! I completed this, which I am stoked about. It was at a networking event in Brighton and I spoke about how to achieve impossible goals using the process of aligning your identity (who you are) with the result you want. One of my goals this year is to speak on stage (and although this was technically a stage, I’m not counting it as my goal fulfilled quite yet, because I’m excited to speak to a bigger audience than there was at this small networking event).

4. I will easily begin Windmill training by 31st March 2020.
   Again, shoulder injury, coronavirus. Not achieved.

5. I will easily take 10x high quality images for my blog by 31st March 2020.
   I had a photoshoot booked with a photographer, and then… Coronavirus. Social distancing. Staying inside. Gosh, this story is getting old. Not achieved.

So what did I learn?

Sometimes, you can’t control things. Even with the absolute best of intentions and a solid “never give up” attitude, you just can’t make your goals happen. And do you know what? I’m glad I didn’t force it. What use would it have been to double-injure myself, or put my health in danger to get my photoshoot done? In the end, I’m pursuing these goals for the joy of growing. And boy, did I grow this month.

Reevaluating Goals

Sometimes big things happen that make you rethink your goals and dreams. Sometimes it’s an opportunity to push through and show your grit, passion and perseverance, and sometimes it’s a chance to ask yourself if you’re on the right track.

Coronavirus has given me the opportunity to do both.

Here’s what I’m evaluating:

1. My overall “impossible” life goals.
   Do I still want the dreams I set for myself a year ago?

2. My subgoals.
   Do my subgoals still move me toward my overall life goals?

3. 3. My daily tasks.
   Is it still productive and helpful for me to be doing the daily tasks I have been doing in the past?

My Impossible Overall Life Goals are these:

• 100 push ups

• 100k YouTube subscribers

• A video interview series

• Do a windmill in breakdancing

• Build a million dollar business

• Do a TED talk

• Run a tropical retreat

• Meditate daily for a year (complete!)

My 2020 subgoals are these:

• Train for 100 push ups in a row

• Help 111 people achieve their impossible goals through my coaching

• Foster my relationships

• Show up online every single day bringing value (blogging daily for two years)

• Start or join a volunteer project

• Post on YouTube every week

• Speak on stage

• Train for my breakdancing windmill

• Start a Britney Spears Dance Aerobics class

My daily tasks are these:

• Meditate (complete, and it’s now enough of a habit that I don’t need to hold myself accountable every single day)

• Blogging

• Photography for my blog

Changes I have decided to make:

• While I will still blog daily because I am still finding it valuable, I am letting go of my attempt to post “blogger-level” photography. I’m listening to my intution – while it would be nice to have great photos, I don’t want to take pictures every single day. I just don’t desire to put in the effort required to become a great photographer, simply because it doesn’t move me closer to any of my impossible goals. And if it’s not moving me towards my goals, it’s a distraction, moving me away from my goals.

What changes are you making to adjust to the New 2020?

Goal Setting

If you want a mediocre life, set mediocre goals.

If you want an extraordinary life, set extraordinary goals.

If you want a life beyond what you ever thought possible – set impossible goals.