Mirror Mirror

When you look in the mirror, how do you see yourself?
How you define yourself is what controls your life.

Do you see someone who can take on their wildest dreams?
When I look in the mirror I see someone who can do 100 push ups.
I see someone who can build an empire.

When I look in the mirror I tell myself I’ve got this.
I tell myself I can change the world.

Because if the girl looking back at me doesn’t believe it, why would the rest of the world?

The only way to get what you want is to be the kind of person who gets what they want. So make BEING the kind of person who achieves your goals your number one priority – and your goals will automatically become reality.

Money

Money - it’s the only thing more taboo than sex.

When I was a kid, I’d do anything to get out of talking about money. I would rather pay for my whole table’s dinner out than discuss how to split the bill.

As a society, we pretend to have more of it than we do have. Sometimes, we pretend to have less of it than we do have.

These are the rules:

You’re supposed to automatically have it, but not want it.
You’re supposed to get it easily, but you’re not supposed to share how.
You can’t be too poor, or people will look down upon you.
You can’t be too rich, or people will look down upon you.

What kind of society is this? I think we’re all subconsciously messed up from having no one to talk about money with. We’re repressed.

The ’60s was the sexual revolution, I think the 2020s should be the financial revolution.

FREE THE FINANCIAL NIPPLE!

Imagine if people talked about it. Like properly.
Imagine if your teachers, your doctors, your storekeepers, your friends, your uncle, your cousin, and your neighbours all shared how much money they make and have.

Imagine if on your Facebook profile, next to where you went to school and what you relationship status is, we put our financial status.

Debt: X amount
Assets: X amount
Savings: X amount

Why is that such a wild idea?

We all have to use money. And yet, we’re terrified of talking about it. After many years of contemplation, I believe it is for these three reasons:

1. We’re afraid others will judge us for the amount we have (shame)

2. We’re afraid we’ll offend someone because our amount is more than theirs (guilt)

3. We’re afraid we’ll lose it/have it stolen (fear)

So we decide that money is private. BUT WHY?

Because we’ve given it more personal meaning than it actually has.

Your net worth is not your self-worth.

Period.

This is me opening up the beginning of a conversation around money that I think is mighty time we started having.

And who knows, maybe we’ll spark a revolution of people sharing their financial status along with their relationship status on Facebook.

March Goals + February Review

You know when your vision is at a Michaelangelo level, but your skills are at a kindergarden level? That’s what this vlog felt like to me! I almost didn’t upload it because it’s so far from perfect, but then I realised that perfection isn’t the point, the point is to share my goals! One of my 2020 goals is to put out a video every week, and practice makes perfect – so eventually I hope to put out Michaelangelo level vlogs (I feel like he would definitely be a vlogger if he were here in 2020).

My March Goals:

1. I will easily join a gym and go weekly by 31st March 2020.

2. I will easily hit 60 push ups by 31st March 2020.

3. I will easily speak/do a talk in public by 31st March 2020.

4. I will easily begin Windmill training by 31st March 2020.

5. I will easily take 10x high quality images for my blog by 31st March 2020.

Let me know what your March goals are in the comments!

90 Days to Best Health Ever

I finally went for a run outside today, so beautiful to have blue skies and sun (hoping for more days like this!)

The last day of winter! And it’s actually sunny enough to wear something other than a thermal jacket and raincoat, I’m so stoked. I decided that the next 90 days (March, April, May) will be dedicated to getting into the best health of my life.

Here’s what I’m doing:

1. Daily cardio

2. Push ups training (of course)

3. Eating guided by the Daily Dozen

4. Sleep by 12am

5. Meditating for deeper, more intentional periods of time

None of this is so crazily far from what I have been doing in my life, but I haven’t been doing all of them consistently and at once. So here we go!

February Goals Review

The month is almost up, so it’s time to share how my February Goals went!

1. I will easily reach 60 push ups in a row by February 29, 2020.

   I almost hit this goal! I got to 50, which I still can’t quite believe. This is the power of shooting for goals that feel beyond what you can do – shoot for the moon and you’ll land among the stars.

2. I will easily begin my habit of sending a weekly email out to my subscriber list by February 29, 2020.

   I did this! Woohoo! Every weekend I sent out my new Impossible Digest newsletter (it’s so much more fun than a regular newsletter – it’s a weekly shot of motivation! Sign up to receive it here.)

3. I will easily go to bed by 12am every night.
   I did this about 70% of the time – which is truly epic because before I set this goal I was doing it 0% of the time. Now that I’m on my 90 Days to the Best Health of My Life challenge, I will be trying to get this number up to 100%!

Overall, I’m happy with my progress but I know I could have been better if I had been more deliberate with my time.

My best February tip: One helpful tool I learned in February is to schedule everything onto your calendar and then throw your to-do list away. That way, if you don’t do something on your calendar, it needs to be moved to another day, and you can actually see the effect of putting it off until tomorrow because very quickly tomorrow runs out of space! (Plus, it’s freeing not to have a to-do list!)

How to Stay Focused on Your Dream

Yesterday I wrote about how to dream.
Today I want to talk about how to stay on the path to your dream and avoid distraction.

1. Write your dream down, in detail.

2. Create a vision board so you can visualise it every single day. Add it to your phone background, your computer, your fridge.

3. Turn your dream into action steps. Use the All It Takes Method.

4. Tell people about your dream. But don’t just tell that you have one – show them what you’re doing to get there. I didn’t tell people I wanted to do 100 push-ups – I told them I was committing to it and I showed up to share my plan. I’m halfway.

5. Know your why. Why do you want it? Remind yourself every day why this dream is important – not just to you, but to the people you will impact and benefit from accomplishing it.

6. Write your dreams down again, in detail again. Write them over and over and over. Keep it at the top of your mind.

7. Get a dream team. A group of people you trust to support you and keep you accountable. This is exactly what I created my membership Impossible Incubator for.

8. Pick your #1 most important dream and prioritize it over everything. Stephen Covey said, “The main thing is to the main thing, the main thing.”

And whatever you do, don’t forget ever about your dream – it might be your most important legacy.

How to Dream: Step by Step

How to dream up a spectacular, impossible, electrifying vision for your life.

1. On a bit of paper, write down your biggest vision.

2. Now ask yourself: “How am I playing small with this vision? “

3. Rewrite your vision, only bigger.

4. Then ask yourself, “If I had already reached that vision, what would be my big vision?”

5. Write that.

6. Don’t stop until you’re both breathless with heart-racing excitement and also feeling sick at the terrifying thought of how impossibly big your dream is.

Then give me a call.

Live Your Message

I consider myself forever a student, and one of my favourite ways to learn everyday is through Podcasts. Through a culmination of Podcasts I’ve been listening to recently, this theme keeps coming up:

The message you are sharing with the world is the one you are role modeling – whether that is positive or negative.

So if you aren’t living the habits, mindset and beliefs that you would be happy for someone to put on your gravestone as your message to the world, then you need to make some changes, right now.

This totally hit me. Are my actions congruent and consistent with the message I want to share with the world?

I like to think so, but are they really?

Am I living into my absolute ideal self? Am I living my values 100%?

If I were going to role model my true message to the world just 30% more, what would I do?

Well, I’m striving to be a person of excellence. So I would:

1. Get in the best health of my life. Energy, vibrancy, sleep, nutrition, exercise, meditation.

2. Connect with more people face to face in the world (not just online).

3. Spend more dedicated, meaningful time with my loved ones.

4. Put 100% into even the most mundane tasks like washing the dishes. Doing the dishes with passion!

5. Serving as much as I can. Finding more ways I can truly serve the people in my life and in the world, and even people I haven’t met.

These are my new challenges. Since discovering them, I have implemented:

1. A “90 days of the best health of my life” challenge, which I’ll definitely be sharing in a future post! It includes a bedtime, longer and deeper meditations, 30 minutes of cardio every day, and eating from the daily dozen).

2. Going to every event I get invited to/see an opportunity for. This is my new rule for myself – even if doesn’t seem like something I’d like. The other day I went to a women’s circle event I thought was going to be far too “woo-woo” for me, and it turned out to be one of the event I’ve been to in the UK. (Have you ever seen that movie, Yes Man, where he just says yes to every opportunity? That’s pretty much me right now!)

3. I have arranged a weekly skype call with my sister every Saturday. We didn’t talk often enough before, and now we’ve done it three weeks in a row I’m feeling so much more connected. Who knew you could schedule connection?

4. On my run today (daily cardio!) I felt like stopping and I just heard the voice in my head say “100% effort!” and I managed to run all the way up a hill I would usually stop half way on. Small changes make a massive difference.

5. I put my hand up to speak at an event next week (eeek!), and I’m currently creating a guide of the biggest most epic material ever that was originally just for my impossible incubator mastermind members, but I’m going to give away for free to everyone because the world needs this stuff (will be able to share more of what it is soon!)

What message do you want to be remembered for – and how could you start living it today?

Push Ups Update: FIFTY!

I can’t believe I did 50 push ups. FIFTY! I've had a couple of rest days because I'm feeling a bit sore afterwards but I’m soooo stoked that I made it to 50! That's HALF WAY to my impossible goal of 100 push ups.

Feeling strong! 💪💪💪

One of the things I noticed was the moment I got to fifty, my identity shifted. Now I'm suddenly someone who can do 50 push ups. That makes me feel powerful! 100 doesn't seem so crazy any more. It feels... achievable?! I know there’s still a lot of effort to go, but how wild is that? I can actually see this happening.

The goal now is to shift my identity to someone who can already do 100 push ups BEFORE I reach 100.

Now that I am someone who can do 100 push ups, what do I do?
How do I train?
What do I eat?
What do I wear?
When do I workout?
What time do I sleep? 

“Now that I am X what do I do?”

These are the questions I get to ask myself every single day.

The fastest way to become your ideal self is to act it.

How are you living into your ideal self right NOW?

Weekly Life Assessments

One of my favourite activities to do every week is to assess the main areas of my life by rating them 1-10 (1 = non-existent, 10 = reaching my full potential). Each Sunday, I assess how I’m feeling in each of the categories, and then over time, I can see my progress.

The categories I rate are:

• Health (mental & physical).

• Love (relationship/self love)

• Family and Friends

• Hobbies

• Spirit

• Mission/Career

I use a trick I learned (I think it was originally from Tim Ferris, thanks Tim!) – rate from 1-10, but don’t use 7.

7 feels good enough. 6 isn’t quite good enough, we know that, and 8 is great, we’re happy with an 8, right?

So 7 is a cop out. When we label something a 7, it flies under the radar, and it doesn’t receive attention. It’s not exceptional, we most certainly aren’t living our most fulfilled lives at a 7, but it’s not bad enough to require immediate attention. By forcing ourselves to choose whether it’s great (8) or not quite good enough (6), we can make sure every area of our life gets the attention it deserves.

Once I’ve rated each category from 1 to 10, I look at the categories I rated the lowest, and think of one way I can boost it in the coming week.

For example:

This week, I rated:

• Health = 8 (I hit 50 push ups! I’ve also been eating healthily, and I’ve been following a new rule: salad at every dinner!)

• Love = 9 (Been spending great quality time with my partner – it’s been a blissful time)

• Family & Friends = 8 (I’ve skyped my Mum, my Grandma, my sister, and one of my cousins this week, which is a lot more connection than usual, and it felt great!)

• Hobbies = 4 (I haven’t been focused at all on my hobbies recently. I love to dance and I’ve been neglecting it a lot)

• Spirit = 8 (I’m feeling vitally alive and passionate at the moment. I’ve been especially true to myself recently)

• Mission/Career = 8 (I’ve been posting weekly videos, coaching in my mastermind, getting coached myself and been working towards a podcast!)

Although hobbies are low, the area I most want to work on at the moment is health (it would have been a 7 but I had to choose, and it’s not a 6).

This is even more rewarding with a friend, so i usually do it with my boyfriend, and we hold each other accountable for taking action to increase our fulfilment in the area we chose that week. After doing the assessment together today, my boyfriend and I decided today that we are going to do a challenge: 90 days to get in the best health of our lives.

• Sleep by 12am (to get 8 hours every night)

• 30 minutes of cardio every day

• Stretching/push ups/squats/abs daily

• Meditation daily (I already do this, so extending the length to 20 minutes always)

• Nutrition (following the Daily Dozen recommendations)

Let me know if you try weekly assessments!