Goals vs Learning

Goals are not important in and of themselves. You set goals for the purpose of learning. – Will Smith

I heard this quote on a Will Smith video today.

It grounded me.

Note to self: Don’t forget it.

The Middle is the Trickiest Part

Right now, I'm in the middle of creating several goals.

The middle is the trickiest part.

The beginning has motivation from the initial spark of excitement.

The end has the final push "almost there" feeling.

The middle is like being alone on a desert island – that I CHOSE to go to 🤦‍♀️ 🌴

It's the grind.

The hustle.

I know I'm being tested to see how bad I want it.

To see if I'm willing to stay up late and get up early.

To see what I'm actually made of.

If I'm going to walk my talk.

(And y'all know I talk a lot of hustle-grind-keep-going-whatever-it-takes-never-give-up)

But it's one thing to say it.

It's another to do it on the days when all I want to do is anything but working on the goal.

Today's pep talk to myself:

Do not give up.

DO NOT GIVE UP.

You can do this.

You WILL do this.

It's decided.

It's already done.

Now make it.

How Do You Want the Journey to Feel?

The goal is important. It's the whole point. 

But 99% of our time is spent pursuing the goal.

Ironically, at the end of the day, it's the pursuit of the goal that fires me up.

Not actually reaching the goal.

I love the heart-thumping feeling when an idea comes knocking at 3am.

I love the determination of waking up every morning with a purpose.

I love the feeling of going to sleep at night having made progress.

I love the pursuit.

So instead of focusing on how I want to feel once I get there – I'm working on how I want to feel WHILE getting there.

DIscIpline is Self Love

Can we take a moment to thank our past selves?

Because I’m only where I am today because my past self was disciplined af.

I owe her.

She got me where I am today.

And when I let myself off the hook, it’s not self love.

It’s self-sabotage.

It’s making life harder for my future self.

Discipline IS self love. Gift it to yourself.

Where Will You Be In 3 months?

The result you’re getting now is a product of the work you put in 3 months ago.

Based on how you want your life to look 3 months from now, how do you need to show up today?

What thoughts do you need to think?

What action do you need to take?

Mine:

I need to be streamlining the processes in my business so it flows better.

I need to be doing my physio exercises not once, but twice a day to heal my shoulder.

I need to believe that I am capable of things much bigger than what I am imagining.

Crazy Week Thoughts vs Fun Week Thoughts

This week I have about 23648568 coaching calls.

I don't usually have that many scheduled, but this week is an exception.

I've been thinking about how to coach my brain through it.

My automatic reaction is:

➡️ This is going to be a CRAZY week

➡️ I'm going to be flat out

➡️ I won't have time for myself

➡️ I will just have to get through it

➡️ I hope I don't get too stressed out

But I've decided they aren't helpful thoughts.

Instead, I'm choosing to think helpful thoughts.

➡️ This is going to be fun

➡️ I love connecting with people

➡️ There is enough time for everything I want to do

➡️ This is an opportunity for me to show up as my ideal self

➡️ I am choosing to be relaxed and do this with ease

➡️ I created this, I am in control

➡️ Time expands for me

These thoughts feel way better.

Going into my week excited and ready.

Bring it on.

The Magic of Setting Impossible Goals

Being realistic is killing your dreams. Here’s why.

Don’t pass it up

Today I had back to back meetings. I sat a test. I drove for 6 hours to another city. Now it’s 1am and I’m exhausted. I don’t feel like writing my blog post, posting on social media or creating any content. I don’t feel like showing up for my goals like I’d planned to.

But here’s the thing about taking action: Your brain will always give you all the reasons why you shouldn’t.

My brain tells me “This is hard. Do we really need to hit this goal? Why not do it next year? Why not extend the deadline? Relax! Take a nap.”

And every day, it tries to justify not taking action today because “what difference will one day make? No one will know.”

It’s so tempting.

But there’s one thing that always stops me from giving in:

Thinking about the greatest people of all time.

Did Michael Jordan think, “I’ve already won 5 championships, why bother with a 6th?”

Did Katherine Johnson think, “Meh. I’m tired of working on this rocket equation. We can go to the moon next year.”

Did Sir Edmund Hilary think, “Ooh, this snow is a bit cold. Everest can wait.”

HELL NO.

They pushed their limits.

They stayed up all night.

They went without.

They did whatever it took.

And here’s why:

Because you don’t become great by passing up opportunities to develop greatness.

Today is one of them.

Don’t pass it up.

Mental Health & Burnout

I’ve been getting some questions recently about mental health and goals.

This is close to my heart because I’ve experienced intense anxiety at different stages in my life.

The question that keeps coming up is, are you allowed to rest, or should you push through when you have mental health challenges?

Here’s the most important distinction:

Taking a rest GIVES you energy to come back at 100%.

Slacking off DRAINS your energy and you don’t feel like coming back at all.

You’ll know by the feeling.

Trust it.

The Only Thing Standing Between You and Your Goal

Action.

It's the only real thing standing between you and your goal.

Two weeks ago, I received an application from Keira, where she confessed to me her impossible dream of starting an independent book shop.

She told me she couldn't imagine it actually happening.

Last week we started working together.

This week, she put in an offer to LEASE A BUILDING.

And she almost forgot to tell me.

That's how much action she has been taking on her goal in just one week – that deciding to lease an actual building was her new normal.

You can choose to spend 10 years making your dreams come true, or you can register your business, buy 15 books, put an offer in on a building and be in business in one week, like Keira.

You can take ACTION.

Or you can wait.

Don't wait.

Book a consult with me. I can help you achieve your goal.

Even impossible ones.

Especially impossible ones.

Let’s talk here.