I Got In!

Ahh you guys I officially hit my biggest impossible goal yet!

I got into the 200k Mastermind.

Two months ago I was working on this goal – but I was trying to get accepted next year.

The requirements seemed so daunting.

And then at some point, I suddenly thought, why wait?

If it's impossible in one year, and it's impossible now, what's the difference?

I could just do it now.

And it has tested me on a whole new level.

I've never had to show up with this much conviction and certainty that I could do something I had ZERO evidence I could do.

But I didn't want to have to tell you that I didn't make it.

I wanted to walk my talk: to show up every day even when it sucked, to commit the result and to never ever give up.

(Do you know how excruciatingly motivating it is to run a Facebook group based purely on achieving impossible goals? It's the best kick in the booty you'll ever get I HAD to do it. I'd told you all I was going to).

So not a day went by in the last two months where I didn't do something to move closer to the goal. Even if that was visualizing, journaling or planning.

And I cried. And I stressed. And I took messy, imperfect actions. I make several big mistakes.

But I also had SO much support. Incredible people in my offline life, my coaches, my Facebook group, and my own clients rooting for me. Thank you all SO much. I wouldn't be here without you.

The most important lesson I learned in the last two months:

When things don't work, it's not a sign to stop – it's a test to see if you want it bad enough to keep going. It's a chance for you to show up as the person you've always wanted to be.

Other thoughts that helped me:

1. It's already DONE.

2. What creative solutions have I not thought of yet?

3. If I had 24 hours left, what would I do?

4. There is always another way.

If there's one thing I believe now more than ever: we are all capable of doing impossible things.

Just Because It's True For Them, Doesn't Make It True for You

I’ve been listening to some business podcasts recently about niches. And according to them, it’s a bad idea to have a broad niche. You shouldn’t just help anyone. You should only help people get one specific result.

That might be true for some people.

But I don’t subscribe.

I help people achieve impossible goals. Any impossible goal.

It doesn’t have to be a certain kind. It just has to be huge, and out of reach, and beyond what your current beliefs tell you that you can do.

Then I can help you.

And maybe one day I’ll decide to only help moms with allergies who want to train newborn kittens, but for now, I’m sticking to my broad niche.

But for now, I’m fully booked. So if you want to work with me, jump on my waitlist by filling out the application to work together here.

But just because something works for other people, doesn’t mean it will work for you.

You don’t have to niche down if you don’t want to.

You could niche up.

You could niche across.

You could just forget about having a niche at all.

Figure out what actually works for you. Then go and do it, 10x harder.

Waiting

Waiting.

Just waiting.

Patience. Tension. Hope.

The world is waiting to see what will happen with the US Elections.

Every goal has a point of painstaking waiting.

But the time will come.

For now, we wait.

Would You Rather?

Would you rather set a tiny goal and surpass it? Or set a huge goal and not quite hit it?

There’s no right answer.

Here are my thoughts:

It’s better to shoot for the moon and land among the stars is better than shoot for a bush and land in a tree.

What do you think?

Second Guessing

My brain likes to do this thing where it second guesses itself. It makes a move and then later thinks “Why did I say that?” or “Ugh, that was so embarrassing”.

I had it happen today. And now my brain is just repeating the situation over and over in my head, trying to replay everything I did wrong again and again.

But we have to give ourselves grace.

And tell ourselves:

I tried my best.

I did the best I could with the situation at the time.

I am learning. I will get better.

It doesn’t really matter in the long run.

In 5 years it won’t matter.

Let go.

The Last Dance

Those who’ve spoken to me over the past 5 months or so know that there’s one person who has completely, wildly, changed my thinking without ever having spoken a word to each other: Michael Jordan.

Before I saw his documentary The Last Dance, I knew who he was of course (is there any more famous sports star?) but I’d never seen footage of him play or heard an interview with him, so I didn’t understand why he was such a big deal.

I get it now.

I’m not specifically interested in basketball as a sport, but since watching his documentary I feel like a whole new world of possibility has opened up.

It’s about ability to DECIDE to make something happen – and then just go and do it.

Michael can do that, unlike anyone else.

Now, without a doubt, the most common thought I have when I’m facing a challenge is, What Would MJ Do?

November 2020 Goals

1. Get all the systems in my business sorted. In the last 2 months, I've taken on 16 new clients, and my business has absolutely boomed (which if you've been following my journey is super exciting – until earlier this year, I spent 2 years not making it work before I got here). As a result, my systems and processes are no longer sufficient. Time to create some new ones and get my business in order!

2. Do my physio exercises 3x a day. Last month I finally saw some improvement after almost an entire year of shoulder pain. This month, I'm ready to go to the next level and make my shoulder pain significantly reduce – or even recover. This is going to require some serious discipline from my brain.

3. Go to bed by 12am every night. This is going to be the biggest challenge of all. I am a real night owl, and I find it super tricky to switch off (especially if my brain gets hold of an idea, then forget about sleeping, I'll be up all night). But I'm determined to get a better hold of my sleep so I can perform at my best each day.

What are your November goals? Let me know in the comments by clicking the title of this post!

October 2020 Goals Review

1. Focus even more on what matters. CHECK ✅

I cut out YouTube for most of this month, because I realised that it was going to take time away from my most important goals. This was a learning lesson this month: If you want to do something impossible, you have to put your all into it. Anything that could potentially take time away from it can't be done.

2. Meet the requirements to join the business mastermind I want to be in. CHECK ✅ This was the biggest goal I've ever had to achieve. I wasn't going to apply for the mastermind for another entire YEAR – the requirements are intense You have to have signed a certain number of clients/made a certain number of $ in 12 month period. When I set this goal I didn't take into account that I won't technically be accepted until November because they don't open applications until November 2nd. BUT the work had to be done in October. I did the work. I'm ready to apply. 14 hours until applications open. Watch this space.

3. Making actual progress on my shoulder healing. CHECK ✅

I am literally jumping with JOY that I am making progress. I've been doing some new nerve exercises and I'm finally noticing a subtle difference. I've got a long way to go, but I haven't had shoulder pain for four days now. That's a HUGE win.

4. Reading a book or watching Netflix in the evenings. CHECK ✅
I read Happier at Home and The Defining Decade, and watched Breaking Bad, The Last Dance, the NZ elections, Grace and Frankie, David Attenborough and I think a bunch of other things I've forgotten! The goal was to chill and enjoy company with my family in the evenings instead of #workworkwork – and I count that as a success!

The Last Minute

It's almost the end of the month and I recently got criticised on Instagram for always pushing to hit my goals at the last minute.

Someone said to me “This is a bit of a running theme for you. l appreciate your last-minute efforts but maybe there’s something to improve in your system.”

Nope.

Because guess what?

If you hit your goal three weeks early, you didn’t set a big enough goal.

Recently my client record-breaking client Matheson told me, “If I think I’m going to hit my goal in advance, I make it harder.”

Yup.

You can't know what you're actually capable of until the last minute.

So why not push yourself to your absolute limit and find out?

I learned this from my dad and his climbing partner.

They set a goal to climb the 7 summits in 7 months – the fastest record ever at the time.

(7 summits = the highest mountain on each continent)

They started with Everest in May and ended with Antarctica's Vinson Massif in December.

They achieved their goal – with six hours to spare.

Six.

So don't be afraid to make bold moves at the last minute.

Nothing impossible was ever done early.

When Everything Goes Wrong

Everything going wrong isn't a sign for you to stop.

It's a test to see how bad you want it.

It's a chance to show yourself what you're made of.

It's an opportunity to show up as someone who doesn't take no for an answer.

What if you get 500 rejection letters for your book? Send another one.

It’s not the end. It’s just a test.

I know because I've been tested a lot.

One time, I missed an international flight to Arizona and had to buy a new one.

Which immediately got canceled by the airline.

They told me there was no way I could get a direct flight that day.

So I decided to fly to the wrong airport on purpose, and take a taxi for an hour across states to another airport.

Then the taxi driver got pulled over by the police for speeding.

The driver charged me extra because of it and I objected. So he locked me in the car. I got out. I’m okay.

I got to Arizona on time.

You know what? It was SO worth it.

Just for the experience of pushing my limits. Just for finding out what I’m made of. What I’m willing to do.

And because of many experiences like this, no matter what gets thrown my way, I believe in my ability to figure it out. Always.

So if things are going wrong right now, know that it’s just a test to see how bad you want it.