Advice to My Past Self

If I could tell my past self something it would be this:

1. Find out the 3 most important things you need to be doing each day that will move you closer to your goal.

2. Uncover what is ACTUALLY stopping you.

3. Do whatever it takes to overcome that (buy the tools, take a course, hire a coach, get therapy, journal on it etc).

4. Do those 3 most important things every single day, no matter what.

What are your three most important things?

P.S. This image is for reference to the past self I’m dedicating this advice to. This was my first ever “business photoshoot”.

Note to Self

I found a love note from my 2019 self. Thanks for believing in me, girl. 

Does anyone else find random old stream-of-consciousness notes in their phone? 🤷

Motivation Isn’t Supposed to Last

There’s this idea that we should be totally motivated, all the time, and if we’re not, there’s something wrong with us.

Um, no.

Lasting motivation is a lie. You cannot rely purely on motivation to get shiz done. EVER.

Motivation is just a feeling, just like sadness or fatigue or excitement.

It’s not about getting motivated once and staying that way, it’s about bringing yourself back to a motivated state as often as you can. (It doesn’t even matter how long you’ve been unmotivated for – you can become the most motivated person on the planet with a single thought).

When we’re motivated, it’s because we’re choosing motivating thoughts.

Thoughts that motivate me:

• Michael Jordan would do it.

• I am the kind of person who does what she says she’s going to do.

• Someone out there needs me to do this right now.

• My success is inevitable.

• I eat fear for breakfast.

• All I have to do is take one tiny step forward. And then another.

• I am literally unstoppable.

• I want this more than I want anything.

• I will look back and be SO proud.

What thoughts motivate you?

Play Your Goals

Instead of working on our goals, I like to think we play our goals.

We play a game that never ends.

And we don’t want it to end.

Because the point is not to win.

The point is to continue playing.

After all – we don’t climb mountains to get to the top, we climb mountains because we love to climb.

Impossible goals aren’t about achievement.

They’re about pushing our limits and blowing our own minds.

How to Get Yourself to Take Action When You Don’t Want To

How to get yourself to take action when you don’t want to 🙈

I coach people on their goals.

It’s what I do literally all day on Zoom.

I eat, sleep, and breathe other people’s goals.

It gives me the most magnificent insight into human potential – but also into human struggles.

One of the most common struggles I see is inaction.

Not taking action at all.

Taking some action, but not enough.

Taking action only when we feel motivated.

Taking action for a few motivated days and then stopping.

Planning to take action but getting distracted.

There are 100 reasons why you might not be taking action. Self-doubt, fear, boredom, distraction, other people’s priorities, disillusion, exhaustion.

But there’s one fool-proof way to guarantee action:

You have to make it utterly non-negotiable.

So you HAVE to. So you’ve got no choice. So you’d never even consider not doing it.

Like picking your kid up from school, or breathing.

When I lived in England, in the winter it was so cold I never wanted to go for a run, so I forced myself into it by making a rule that I wasn’t allowed to shower – unless it was to wash off sweat.

I never, ever, ever took a shower unless I had been for a run.

The longest I went without running (or a shower) was a day.

(I was inspired by the novelist, Victor Hugo, who forced himself to take action by commanding his servant to take away all his clothes each day. Left totally naked in his study, with only paper and pen, he had nothing to do but write.)

Make your most important actions non-negotiable.

Then you’ll guarantee results.

What are your non-negotiable actions?👇

Relentless Effort

533 - The number of days I’ve blogged in a row

365 - The number of days I meditated in a row

1000 – the number of days it took me to get fully booked in my business

49928 – the number of dollars I’ve spent on business training in 2 years

3 – the number of times I had to go back to a job I hated before I made my business work

1378 - the number of people who joined my Facebook group in the last 30 days

21 - the number of 1:1 clients I signed in the last 3 months.

I’m an effective entrepreneur today because my past self cultivated the discipline to do what she said she was going to do, even when it sucked.

There’s no magic pill.

There’s no secret.

There’s only one thing.

Relentless freaking effort.

Decide Your Excuses Ahead of Time

Decide your excuses ahead of time. 

Plan them.

Make exceptions.

Choose when it’s okay for you to not show up for your goal when you had planned to.

• Decide it’s okay the day your sister gives birth to her baby.

• Decide it’s okay when you have a migraine.

• Decide it’s okay when your kid gets sick.

But don’t decide in the moment, just because you don’t feel like it.

Decide ahead of time.

Make a list of valid excuses. Anything can be on the list.

But if it’s not on the list, don’t make an excuse.

A long day, argument with your friends, feeling tired - none of that counts. Unless it was already on the list.

Be the kind of person who can stick to her word. 

It’s how you show love to your future self ❤️

Then & Now

“You’re not scared to start your dream. You’re embarrassed to be seen starting small.” – Brendon Burchard

I still keep my most embarrassing, first-ever videos up on my channel. 

They are the cringiest, most awkward videos on the internet.

But I do it because one day, I want someone to be able to look back at my beginning and feel like they can start exactly where they are too, with just a bedroom and a broken whiteboard.

A lot can change in a year, you guys.

Keep going.

How to Act As If

When you set a goal, you’re auditioning for a role.

The role of future you.

Congratulations, you got the part!

Now your job is to learn the lines.

You have to practice acting like the future you over and over until you get it just right.

How does she talk?

What does she wear?

What time does she get up?

What action does she take?

Step into the staring role of FUTURE YOU.

You will be awkward at first.

Keep practicing.

Until one day, you’ll realise that the entire set around you has come together - and you no longer have to act like the person who can achieve your goal.

You will BE the Future You.

You will achieve the goal because you will be the kind of person who achieves that kind of goal.

Act into your future self, and one day, you will be her.

Network With the People Around You

An unreasonably large number of the world’s best football players all come from the same football club in one small village.

Why?

Because that club has figured out how to turn anyone into a phenomenal player.

It makes me think about our Facebook group of Impossible Girls.

What if in 15 years time, someone traces back all the top leaders and change makers of the world to this one group that was a catalyst for achieving impossible goals?

You could be commenting next to a future prime minister or billionaire philanthropist, right now.

You could become best friends with a future celebrity in this group today.

You could meet the next Oprah in this group, this week.

Think about the kind of goals we all have.

Statistically speaking, some of the people in this group are going to be ridiculously successful in the next few years.

So you might want to make some friends here, because you’re all epic af and headed for greatness.

This group is a networking goldmine.

Just saying ❤️