51% Belief Is All You Need

Every day, I work on my belief that I’m the kind of person that can hit ANY goal I set myself.

It’s how I do things like 50 push ups in a row and blogging for 600 days and making 5-figure months.

Because I genuinely believe I can do them, before I've done them.

And it’s not like I don’t have days where I think “eeeeek I don’t know if I’m going to hit this goal!”

I have plenty of those moments, like “damn, am I actually bat-shit crazy for thinking I can do this?”

It’s just that I spend more of my time deliberately believing that I will hit my goal.

And you create what you believe the most.

You don’t have to be in perfect 100% belief that you can achieve your goal.

You just have to believe you can achieve it more than you believe you can’t.

So even if you spent 49% of your time believing you’re not going to hit your goal, but you spend 51% of your time believing you will hit it, you’ll still hit the goal.

Because 51% of your energy will be directed towards figuring it out.

Here’s how I spend more time believing I CAN do impossible things:

• I journal on why I CAN achieve my goal, every morning while I eat breakfast. I haven’t missed a day since March 1st.

• I make lists of all the things I’ve done in the past that blew my mind

• I created a playlist of songs that put me in the mindset of my ideal self who crushes every goal and I listen to it right before I have to do something for my goal (I think this might be the most rapidly effective way for me to get into belief).

• I get coached on my blocks by my coach, Stacey.

• I seek out people who make me feel like I’m limitless. There are only a handful of these people in my life, but every time I talk to them, they make me feel invincible, and I’m high for 3 days afterward.

• I surrounded myself with people doing epic things and breaking limits. My clients. My friends. My mastermind.

• I spend my spare time watching documentaries about people who have done wild, crazy things. Some recent favourites: The Last Dance, The Dawn Wall, Free Solo and The Speed Cubers.

What I’m saying is, if you’re not at 100% belief in your goal, that’s totally okay.

All you have to do get to 51%.

Building in Thinking Time

There’s the time you spend doing the thing, and then there’s the time you spend getting yourself to do the thing.

Sometimes, the latter takes longer.

Emptying the dishwasher is like a 60-second job, but I can easily spend 30 minutes procrastinating doing it.

While I probably just need to hang a JUST DO IT sign on the dishwasher, there are some activities that I argue we should build in time to think about doing.

The extra time includes:

• Considering

• Thinking

• Contemplating

• Journaling

• Planning

• Organizing

• Prepping

Do you add extra buffer time to your to-do list items?

Buffer Time

I’m working really carefully on creating buffer time.

Making the time in between the tasks I have on my calendar bigger.

Scheduling in time for things to take longer than planned. For unexpected interruptions. For going back inside when I forget my phone.

It sounds like it would be straight-forward, but it’s my biggest challenge at the moment.

But slowly, I’m building buffer time into everything I do, and it feels SO good not to rush everything.

Girls

I want girls to know that they are enough.

And that they can stand up for what they believe in. 

And that they can talk about money.

And that they can want big things.

And that they can be ambitious as hell.

And that none of those things make her wrong or bad.

They just make her one of the ones who are changing the world.

Value = Success

Your job is to create so much value for people that your success is inevitable.

Value might be a conversation, or an Instagram post, or connecting two people together.

Value is anything that helps someone get closer to their goal.

And it doesn't just happen after a transaction.

Value is something you deliver ahead of time.

Before payment is ever discussed.

What would add incredible value to your people's lives right now? Actual, genuine, life-changing value? What do they actually need?

Deliver it, and success is yours.

The Now or Never Clause

I’ve been walking around with a rip in my jacket for two years.

And it’s been on my list to fix it for two years.

And today, I decided to release it from my to-do list.

It’s now or never.

And sometimes, I choose never.

Even though it’s probably only a 30-minute job.

I’d rather just wear it ripped.

So I’m giving myself a Now or Never Clause.

If something on my to-do list isn’t important enough to get done now, it probably isn’t important enough to get done ever.

Goodbye, boring list of things to do that I will probably never do but feel guilty about every time I look at my list.

Good riddance.

I'm Breaking Up With My Impossible Goal

I’ve thought long and hard about this one. Because I refuse to give up on my goals and dreams. Ever.

But what happens when a dream is something I no longer want?

I also refuse to spend my precious time on this earth pursuing a dream that is no longer a dream.

So, I am officially breaking up with of one of my goals: 100k Subscribers on YouTube.

Because it dawned on me that if hit 100k on YouTube – I would be a YouTuber. And I would have to put out more videos.

I don’t want to be a YouTuber.

I want to be a coach – and I am.

I don’t want to do both.

It’s not that I don’t like making videos. I do.

It’s just that it’s not what I want to spend most of my time doing.

And if I aim for 100k on YouTube, guess what? 

I’ll most definitely be putting myself in a position where I then need to spend most of my time creating YouTube videos.

I am not “quitting” YouTube (can I even say that as someone who isn’t actually a YouTuber?).

I may still put out videos from time to time.

I will certainly still binge-watch other people’s content.

But I realize that my goal was misdirected.

There’s a litmus test you can do to see if you still want your goal:

Ask yourself, “Would I still want this goal if I didn’t have to work for it?”

If someone handed me 100k subscribers on a plate right now, I wouldn’t take it.

I don’t want the life that comes with it.

So don’t give up on your goals because they’re hard.

Break up with them because you no longer want the end result.

Setting a Goal Always Feels Good

At the beginning of the year or month, it always feels amazing to set an impossible goal.

Because it’s easy to feel good about a goal you haven't started yet.

It's exciting, you've got time ahead of you, your belief is strong.

You haven't had to take action yet, and you haven't had to OWN your goal yet.

When you're freaking out and doing an ugly cry on your bathroom floor, it's because you're finally taking the goal seriously.

If you're not freaking out, fantastic.

But if you are, know that it is part of the impossible goal-getting process, and your only job is to love yourself and keep going.

Stream of Thoughts

Things are shifting in my business and I’m excited about the changes that are to come.

Thoughts that have been occupying my mind:

1. Will I continue blogging after my 730-days-in-a-row challenge is up? Is it still the best place for me to put my energy and value?

2. What do I actually want my day to look like?

3. How many of the things on my to do list are actually totally unnecessary for my ultimate mission and goal?

I’m pondering these thoughts today. I’ll keep you updated.

Happy International Women's Day!

In honour of International Women’s Day AND my Grandmother’s birthday, today I’m reposting this, one of my favourite posts on my blog:

Sometimes people ask me why I am such an ambitious woman. 

Why do I need to go after impossible dreams? Why not just be satisfied with the way things are?

And I'm like, GIRL. We need to talk.

You and I are some of the first women in history – and still in the world today – to have the freedom to even TRY to fulfill our potential.

And that is only because we are standing on the shoulders of generations of women who fought for us to have the opportunities we have. 

My heart breaks at the thought of all the women with brilliant ideas and dreams who never got a chance to attempt them.

Thanks to ambitious women fighting for our rights – to vote, to go to school, to have bank accounts, to have reproductive choices – you and I have the chance to go after our dreams.

Ambitious women changed the world for us.

And now it's our turn to be an example of what is possible for the next generation of women.

I will never, ever, apologise for being ambitious.

I owe it to my grandmother.