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My friend and mentor, Sarah Coxon once said to me,
“Hustling is an unimaginative way to do business.”
That kinda blew my mind.
It made me realise, hustling is an unimaginative way to do anything.
What happened to ease?
First we must find the peace, the happiness. Then the result of our mission doesn’t matter. And when something doesn’t matter, there’s no stress. No anxiety.
Hustle (verb): to push or force.
Pushing and forcing ourselves to reach our goals is exactly what we’re expected to do. It’s a military thing.
It’s the straight forward route. We’re told if we aren’t producing results, then we should work longer hours, or work harder, or struggle longer.
I believe in trusting your struggle. But I do not believe in imposing your struggle.
So if we don’t hustle - how do we reach our goals?
Creativity. Thinking outside the box.
You know that thing that’s been bothering you, that goal you’ve been hustling at with no avail?
Write a list of 10 alternative routes you could take to achieve that goal that don’t involve “hustling”.
And as always, take action.
But this time, take action with ease.
Don’t let your ideas be ideas.
Writing out ideas or plans in a journal feels like productivity. It feels like we're getting things done. But if those ideas stay ideas, the activity is the exact opposite of productive: it's time wasting.
'Organized' is not synonymous with 'productive'.
You can have colour-coded folders and journals and planners filled to the brim, but unless action takes place, you're not actually progressing.
My friend Ashley Shapiro recently introduced me to a mashup word she coined: Organisaction.
Taking action during organisation.
Don't write a list of everything that needs to get done today.
Schedule the tasks into your calendar.
Set an actual meeting.
Whatever you do, get the ball rolling in the real world. Don’t let your ideas be ideas.
Your massive vision is too small.
Clients come to me and say, “I want to be the next Marie Forleo”.
And I say, “Boring. It’s already been done.”
Do you really want to be the next Marie Forleo? No.
Girl you can dream bigger than that!
Do you think Marie Forleo’s massive vision is to just be herself? Do you think she’s feel’s she’s already reached her peak? Unlikely.
I bet she has a spectacular, impossible, electrifying vision for her impact.
You need a spectacular, impossible, electrifying vision too.
Don’t call me if you have a small vision. I’m not interested in helping you become a mediocre version of yourself. I want to know what you really desire.
How to dream up a spectacular, impossible, electrifying vision:
1. On a bit of paper, write down your biggest vision.
2. Now ask yourself how am I playing small with this vision?
3. Now rewrite your vision, only bigger.
4. Then ask yourself, if I already reached that vision, what would be my big vision?
5. Write that.
6. Don’t stop until you
Once you’re breathless with excitement and butterflies of dread swirling in your stomach at the thought of how impossibly big your dream is – then let’s talk.
You’ve gone for an ocean swim with a few of your biggest inspirations.
Tony Robbins is there. And Marie Forleo. Yup, Beyonce is there too.
You’re simply treading water – oh and that’s right, you’re all completely nude.
Gosh, they’re so much better than you, aren’t they? You haven’t got nearly as much money as Tony, or as many Instagram followers and Marie, or designer clothes like Beyonce. And you’ll never be as successful as them.
And then a salty wave of realisation hits you.
Tony can’t take his bank account into the ocean.
Marie can’t take her Instagram following into the ocean.
Beyonce can’t even take her Gucci bikini into the ocean (you’re all butt-naked, remember?).
You can’t take success skinny-dipping.
Because when we strip down to our birthday suits, and take away the money, fame and success, it turns out we are all the same.
We tread the same water.
We breathe the same air.
We pee in the same spot.
No amount of money, fame or success can change that. Not at sea, not on land.
Stop comparing yourself to other people.
Dry off, get some knickers on, and go kick some ass.