How to Overcome Your Own Excuses

The last few days I’ve been working on an exercise that’s been really helping me overcome my own mind drama and excuses.

Here’s how it works:

1. Write out what you want at the top of a page.

2. Write out every single excuse your brain gives you about why you don’t already have it.

3. Next to every excuse, write a solution to overcome it.

4. Go and execute those solutions as soon as possible. Before your brain has a chance to come up with more excuses.

Simple. So. damn. effective.

These are the excuses my brain has made for why I’m not where I want to be yet with all my goals:

• I don’t have professional enough photography

• I haven’t learned keyword research on YouTube

• I’m not “successful enough” for people to publish anything about me

• My Instagram feed isn’t pretty enough

• I’m not a practiced speaker

• I don’t have enough followers

Yes, for real, that is the BS my brain comes up with. 

It’s so embarrassing to write it down because I can see how UNIMPORTANT it all is to achieving my goals.

And yet, they still bother me.

So here is my solution:

I can either:

a) Do the thing I think I need to do just to get it off my mind

OR

b) Decide to never ever worry about it again for all eternity

Here is what I’ve decided to do:

• Just get the photography done (I just posted in an NZ Facebook asking for a photographer)

• Buy the YouTube course I’ve been procrastinating buying (just got on the email list for when it next opens)

• Decide that I AM successful enough already, and send my content to publishers now (Tuesday I will write something to send!)

• Literally never ever worry about my Instagram feed ever again for all eternity because it doesn't matter

• Practice speaking and watch presentation videos on YouTube (This Thursday I will begin working on this).

• Serve the audience I DO have because they are amazing (Keep showing up every day with value)

I've decided I will never. ever. let excuses stop me.

Beliefs That Made Me Money This Month

The beliefs that I have been choosing to think every single day:

I already have everything I need RIGHT NOW to make my money goals happen.

I don't need new clothes or a nicer house.

I don't need more followers.

I don't need a better website.

I don't need to buy anything else.

I don't even need to wait until I've learned anything new.

I'm ready.

Every morning I've been waking up and saying:

TODAY IS THE DAY!

How to Close the Gap Between Where You Are Now And Where You Want to Be

There’s only one way to get to where you want to go – and that’s to act like you’re already there.

If you are constantly TRYING to get somewhere, you won’t get there. Because you’ll always be taking action from a ‘trying’ mindset.

The key is to BE the person you need to be, already, right now.

• What does she think?

• What does she believe?

• How does she act?

• What does she say?

• Who does she spend time with?

• What does she do?

• What action does she take?

• How does she walk?

• How does she talk?

• What are her boundaries?

• How does she handle negativity?

• What is her mindset?

These aren’t just questions, these are journaling affirmations.

These are thoughts I ask myself every single day.

Each day, my main priority is to BE the person that I need to be.

The key is to then ACT on the answers.

How to Take Command of Your Life

This morning I spoke with the incredible Paul Gowin on a Facebook Livestream. Paul is a Mustang Marine Combat Veteran turned transformational specialist!

Peace & love aren’t just words to Paul – they’re a way of life. In 2013, as a junior officer in the United States Marine Corps, Paul saw a way to decrease the number of people in a combat zone. Today he shared with me his ‘ABCs’ of how to use words, thoughts and actions to create more peace and transformation in your own life.

Ready to Take Command of your life?

This is the livestream for you.

HOWEVER, you may notice that the video is SUPER stretched (we look like aliens!) but don’t be put off! Listening is just as good, the content is so epic and will truly transform your life.

Watch & listen here.

P.S. Connect with Paul on Instagram here. And work with him here.

Silence

Listening. Learning. Speaking up. Standing with you. #blackout2020

Messing Up

Ugh. You know that feeling when you mess up and it just can't be undone?

It's the worst.

That happened today. I missed a call with someone very important to me. For the third time in a row.

I cried.

I couldn't understand how it happened.

It just did.

I felt like beating myself up over it.

I googled searched what to do when you mess up.

The search results were not what I wanted to hear.

Complicated emotions can't be solved in a WikiHow 3 step process.

We have to feel the emotion. Allow ourselves to go through whatever we need to go through.

One of my favourite authors, Gabby Bernstein, talks about how until you feel the anger or sadness or whatever emotion it is, you can't actually move forward in the letting go process. Sometimes, you just have to yell and scream and get mad.

So this morning, instead of fighting the anger with myself, I let it in. I told myself off in the mirror. I cried in the shower.

And now, even though there is damage to repair and I don't know if the person will forgive me – I'm ready to accept it and love myself anyway.

Life Is a Spiral

One of my close friends and coach, Nicole Middleton, talks often talks about the ancient philosophy of spiraling.

She says that life is like a spiral.

You are constantly upleveling to the next layer of the spiral, and constantly revisiting the same truths. It's why we have the same "aha" moments all the time.

Some of my recurring truths. At each level of my spiral, I always come back to:

• "I should just not worry about what anyone else thinks!" 

• "It doesn't matter. Nothing matters. So just enjoy it and have fun."

• "It's all about who I am BEING, not what I am DOING."

At each level, I experience these realizations at an even deeper level.

I used to think that I was being silly for experiencing the same aha moments all the time. But now I know it is just a deeper knowing and deeper awakening every time.

Thank you Nicole <3 

Connect with Nicole here.

Here's Why 'Acting As If' is the Most Important Skill You Can Learn

Frank never went to flight school.
Frank never went to medical school.
Frank never went to law school.
Frank never went to university.

And yet, from the age of 15-21, teenage impostor and con artist, Frank William Abignale Jr. worked as a pilot, a doctor, a lawyer, and a professor.

No one ever questioned him or suspected him to be a fraud.

He just seemed like he was supposed to be there. He believed he was.

He was eventually caught, and after he was released from prison, he used his expertise to help the FBI catch other criminals, and he is now one of the world's most respected authorities on embezzlement and cheque fraud.

(If you haven't seen the movie based on his life, I highly recommend it).

The part that interests me the most isn't the crime – it's how at such a young age, he was able to convince everyone around him that he was these extraordinary things.

He took on the identity of the person he wanted to be.

If we put the crime aside for one moment, we can see that getting what we want in life is really about ONE thing.

Acting as if.

To get what you want, you have to BE the person you want to be – right now – by acting as if you already are that person.

When Frank was asked how he was able to get away with teaching as a Professor of Sociology at BYU (at sixteen!), he simply said "All I had to do was read one chapter ahead in the book."

IF HE CAN ACT AS IF HE IS A LAWYER AND A PILOT AND A PROFESSOR AND A DOCTOR, YOU CAN ACT AS IF YOU ARE THE NEXT LEVEL VERSION OF YOU.

Who do you need to BE to create the result you want in your life?

Download my workbook on how to get any result you want:

Purpose

When You Give It All You Get it All

“You give it all, you get it all.” – Wim Hof, “The Ice Man”

Wim says your mindset is a neurological muscle.

It’s no longer a woo-woo concept – getting into a phenomenal mindset is scientifically proven to make a difference to your outcomes. It’s common knowledge now. Working on your mindset is one of the most important things you can do for your health, your success, and your happiness.

When you’re willing to put in 100% effort, you’ll get 100% out of it.