February Goals Review

The month is almost up, so it’s time to share how my February Goals went!

1. I will easily reach 60 push ups in a row by February 29, 2020.

   I almost hit this goal! I got to 50, which I still can’t quite believe. This is the power of shooting for goals that feel beyond what you can do – shoot for the moon and you’ll land among the stars.

2. I will easily begin my habit of sending a weekly email out to my subscriber list by February 29, 2020.

   I did this! Woohoo! Every weekend I sent out my new Impossible Digest newsletter (it’s so much more fun than a regular newsletter – it’s a weekly shot of motivation! Sign up to receive it here.)

3. I will easily go to bed by 12am every night.
   I did this about 70% of the time – which is truly epic because before I set this goal I was doing it 0% of the time. Now that I’m on my 90 Days to the Best Health of My Life challenge, I will be trying to get this number up to 100%!

Overall, I’m happy with my progress but I know I could have been better if I had been more deliberate with my time.

My best February tip: One helpful tool I learned in February is to schedule everything onto your calendar and then throw your to-do list away. That way, if you don’t do something on your calendar, it needs to be moved to another day, and you can actually see the effect of putting it off until tomorrow because very quickly tomorrow runs out of space! (Plus, it’s freeing not to have a to-do list!)

How to Stay Focused on Your Dream

Yesterday I wrote about how to dream.
Today I want to talk about how to stay on the path to your dream and avoid distraction.

1. Write your dream down, in detail.

2. Create a vision board so you can visualise it every single day. Add it to your phone background, your computer, your fridge.

3. Turn your dream into action steps. Use the All It Takes Method.

4. Tell people about your dream. But don’t just tell that you have one – show them what you’re doing to get there. I didn’t tell people I wanted to do 100 push-ups – I told them I was committing to it and I showed up to share my plan. I’m halfway.

5. Know your why. Why do you want it? Remind yourself every day why this dream is important – not just to you, but to the people you will impact and benefit from accomplishing it.

6. Write your dreams down again, in detail again. Write them over and over and over. Keep it at the top of your mind.

7. Get a dream team. A group of people you trust to support you and keep you accountable. This is exactly what I created my membership Impossible Incubator for.

8. Pick your #1 most important dream and prioritize it over everything. Stephen Covey said, “The main thing is to the main thing, the main thing.”

And whatever you do, don’t forget ever about your dream – it might be your most important legacy.

How to Dream: Step by Step

How to dream up a spectacular, impossible, electrifying vision for your life.

1. On a bit of paper, write down your biggest vision.

2. Now ask yourself: “How am I playing small with this vision? “

3. Rewrite your vision, only bigger.

4. Then ask yourself, “If I had already reached that vision, what would be my big vision?”

5. Write that.

6. Don’t stop until you’re both breathless with heart-racing excitement and also feeling sick at the terrifying thought of how impossibly big your dream is.

Then give me a call.

Live Your Message

I consider myself forever a student, and one of my favourite ways to learn everyday is through Podcasts. Through a culmination of Podcasts I’ve been listening to recently, this theme keeps coming up:

The message you are sharing with the world is the one you are role modeling – whether that is positive or negative.

So if you aren’t living the habits, mindset and beliefs that you would be happy for someone to put on your gravestone as your message to the world, then you need to make some changes, right now.

This totally hit me. Are my actions congruent and consistent with the message I want to share with the world?

I like to think so, but are they really?

Am I living into my absolute ideal self? Am I living my values 100%?

If I were going to role model my true message to the world just 30% more, what would I do?

Well, I’m striving to be a person of excellence. So I would:

1. Get in the best health of my life. Energy, vibrancy, sleep, nutrition, exercise, meditation.

2. Connect with more people face to face in the world (not just online).

3. Spend more dedicated, meaningful time with my loved ones.

4. Put 100% into even the most mundane tasks like washing the dishes. Doing the dishes with passion!

5. Serving as much as I can. Finding more ways I can truly serve the people in my life and in the world, and even people I haven’t met.

These are my new challenges. Since discovering them, I have implemented:

1. A “90 days of the best health of my life” challenge, which I’ll definitely be sharing in a future post! It includes a bedtime, longer and deeper meditations, 30 minutes of cardio every day, and eating from the daily dozen).

2. Going to every event I get invited to/see an opportunity for. This is my new rule for myself – even if doesn’t seem like something I’d like. The other day I went to a women’s circle event I thought was going to be far too “woo-woo” for me, and it turned out to be one of the event I’ve been to in the UK. (Have you ever seen that movie, Yes Man, where he just says yes to every opportunity? That’s pretty much me right now!)

3. I have arranged a weekly skype call with my sister every Saturday. We didn’t talk often enough before, and now we’ve done it three weeks in a row I’m feeling so much more connected. Who knew you could schedule connection?

4. On my run today (daily cardio!) I felt like stopping and I just heard the voice in my head say “100% effort!” and I managed to run all the way up a hill I would usually stop half way on. Small changes make a massive difference.

5. I put my hand up to speak at an event next week (eeek!), and I’m currently creating a guide of the biggest most epic material ever that was originally just for my impossible incubator mastermind members, but I’m going to give away for free to everyone because the world needs this stuff (will be able to share more of what it is soon!)

What message do you want to be remembered for – and how could you start living it today?

Push Ups Update: FIFTY!

I can’t believe I did 50 push ups. FIFTY! I've had a couple of rest days because I'm feeling a bit sore afterwards but I’m soooo stoked that I made it to 50! That's HALF WAY to my impossible goal of 100 push ups.

Feeling strong! 💪💪💪

One of the things I noticed was the moment I got to fifty, my identity shifted. Now I'm suddenly someone who can do 50 push ups. That makes me feel powerful! 100 doesn't seem so crazy any more. It feels... achievable?! I know there’s still a lot of effort to go, but how wild is that? I can actually see this happening.

The goal now is to shift my identity to someone who can already do 100 push ups BEFORE I reach 100.

Now that I am someone who can do 100 push ups, what do I do?
How do I train?
What do I eat?
What do I wear?
When do I workout?
What time do I sleep? 

“Now that I am X what do I do?”

These are the questions I get to ask myself every single day.

The fastest way to become your ideal self is to act it.

How are you living into your ideal self right NOW?

Weekly Life Assessments

One of my favourite activities to do every week is to assess the main areas of my life by rating them 1-10 (1 = non-existent, 10 = reaching my full potential). Each Sunday, I assess how I’m feeling in each of the categories, and then over time, I can see my progress.

The categories I rate are:

• Health (mental & physical).

• Love (relationship/self love)

• Family and Friends

• Hobbies

• Spirit

• Mission/Career

I use a trick I learned (I think it was originally from Tim Ferris, thanks Tim!) – rate from 1-10, but don’t use 7.

7 feels good enough. 6 isn’t quite good enough, we know that, and 8 is great, we’re happy with an 8, right?

So 7 is a cop out. When we label something a 7, it flies under the radar, and it doesn’t receive attention. It’s not exceptional, we most certainly aren’t living our most fulfilled lives at a 7, but it’s not bad enough to require immediate attention. By forcing ourselves to choose whether it’s great (8) or not quite good enough (6), we can make sure every area of our life gets the attention it deserves.

Once I’ve rated each category from 1 to 10, I look at the categories I rated the lowest, and think of one way I can boost it in the coming week.

For example:

This week, I rated:

• Health = 8 (I hit 50 push ups! I’ve also been eating healthily, and I’ve been following a new rule: salad at every dinner!)

• Love = 9 (Been spending great quality time with my partner – it’s been a blissful time)

• Family & Friends = 8 (I’ve skyped my Mum, my Grandma, my sister, and one of my cousins this week, which is a lot more connection than usual, and it felt great!)

• Hobbies = 4 (I haven’t been focused at all on my hobbies recently. I love to dance and I’ve been neglecting it a lot)

• Spirit = 8 (I’m feeling vitally alive and passionate at the moment. I’ve been especially true to myself recently)

• Mission/Career = 8 (I’ve been posting weekly videos, coaching in my mastermind, getting coached myself and been working towards a podcast!)

Although hobbies are low, the area I most want to work on at the moment is health (it would have been a 7 but I had to choose, and it’s not a 6).

This is even more rewarding with a friend, so i usually do it with my boyfriend, and we hold each other accountable for taking action to increase our fulfilment in the area we chose that week. After doing the assessment together today, my boyfriend and I decided today that we are going to do a challenge: 90 days to get in the best health of our lives.

• Sleep by 12am (to get 8 hours every night)

• 30 minutes of cardio every day

• Stretching/push ups/squats/abs daily

• Meditation daily (I already do this, so extending the length to 20 minutes always)

• Nutrition (following the Daily Dozen recommendations)

Let me know if you try weekly assessments!

The Only Reason

The ONLY reason you are not making money as an entrepreneur is because you don’t believe you are someone who makes money as an entrepreneur.

The ONLY reason you are not losing weight is because you don’t believe you are someone who can lose weight.

The ONLY reason you are not eating healthily is because you don’t believe you are someone who eats healthily. 

The ONLY reason you are not in a happy relationship is because you don’t believe you’re someone who has happy relationships.

It’s all about who you believe you are. If you believe you are a non-smoker, it doesn’t take any effort to not smoke, right?

Tony Robbins says that the strongest force in the human personality is our need to make our actions consistent with how we define ourselves – even if that definition is negative.

It’s why some people never struggle with money, and others never struggle with weight, and others never struggle with relationships.

It’s their standard.

It’s fully ingrained in who they are.

They are X kind of person. And therefore, they act in X kind of way.

What kind of person are you?

(Hint: you get to decide).

Perfection

As the old saying goes, perfect is the enemy of good.

One of the easiest traps we fall into as a society, as a culture, and especially as big dreamers is to believe we can only create, begin, make, publish, and accept work that is perfect.

But as Big Magic author, Liz Gilbert says: Perfection is “like auditioning for a part you already got”.

You’ve made it. You’re here! On planet earth, at the best time in history to be alive. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone. You are enough.

Create because it’s fun. Go after your dreams because your heart longs to. Don’t try and be perfect.

I wish I’d known this much earlier. I mean, of course I knew of it as a concept. But I didn’t really know it, you know?

Every day I create content that is so far from perfect it’s silly. Even this blog post is a mash up of imperfect, unedited words. But I don’t need to be perfect, I’ve given it up. I just want to create, to push my limits, to dream, to help other people feel the fire in their soul that burns bright for their dreams.

Screw perfection. I’m so done with it. You can let go too.

How to Stay Positive While Pursuing Your Dreams

The number one question I get asked is “How are you always so positive?” Here’s my mindset behind how I stay positive when my dreams feel so impossible and far away.

Let me know what you think in the comments and subscribe! ❤️️

The Impossible Oobah Butler

Millennial filmmaker, Oobah Butler got his backyard London restaurant to #1 on TripAdvisor. Only it didn’t exist. The ultimate bamboozle.

He didn’t stop there. Next up, crashing Paris fashion week – as a fake designer, Georgio Peviani.

Then once again, he fooled the world by sending fake versions of himself to do media interviews.

What I admire about Oobah isn’t his excellently honed trickster skills, but his belief that anything is possible.

Want to get to #1 on TripAdvisor? Easy.
Crash Paris Fashion Week? Piece of cake.
Get not-so-uncanny doppelgangers to stand in for you? Of course.

I think there’s a lot to learn from Oobah’s creative, no-mission-too-big approach and his can-do attitude.

Doesn’t he just make you think about things from a new angle? How could you be more creative in your goal pursuits?

It all starts with the question: What if…?