Let Go & Get Clean

An identity is a belief about who we are. Those beliefs can be so strong we don’t even realize we have them.

They’ve become an unconscious pattern.

We are so used to being the struggling entrepreneur, or the stressed-out mum, or the one who can’t control themselves around food, that we have become dependent on that identity to know who we are.

But if we want to be the thriving entrepreneur, or the relaxed mum, or the one who loves their body, we must let go of our old identity and step into a new one.

We have to get clean.

Getting clean from belief patterns is not a once-off process. Instead, we must choose to step into our new identity one moment at a time.

What is the identity you are letting go of? What is the new identity you are stepping into?

Impossible Girls Facebook Group

I’ve finally created a free Facebook Group as a private space where women can come together to ask each other questions and share their challenges, get feedback and get free coaching from me.

I will be adding a lot of value in this group, including live trainings, so make sure if you’re a woman with big dreams, this is the place to be!

Join us here.

Mind Drama

There’s a difference between the truth and the way our minds interpret things.

We think our thoughts are the truth, but they aren’t.

We do this thing called Mind Drama.

We make a situation mean something, when in fact, it doesn’t mean that thing at all.

It’s neutral.

We add meaning to a situation with our thoughts.

You get to choose the meaning, because you get to choose your thoughts.

Choose again.

There will come a day

There will come a day when you will reminisce about the beginning of your journey.

There will come a day where you’ll look back and remember that you used to struggle so much to make progress on your impossible dream.

There will come a day when the problem you’re facing right now won’t be a problem for you any more.

There will come a day when you are so successful at what you do, you’ll look back and give your current self advice from the future.

What will your future self say to your current self?

How did they overcome this problem you’re facing?

Miracle morning

This morning I got up with the first alarm I set. I brushed my teeth, drank a big glass of water, stretched and went for a bike ride.

This. Never. Happens.

So what changed?

I read something that changed my life last night:

The first thought you have when you wake up is the same as the last thought you had when you fell asleep.

So if you fall asleep thinking “oh no, I have to get up in just a few hours”, you’ll wake up thinking “ugh, is it time to get up already?”

But if you fall asleep thinking “I can’t wait to get up and work on my project”, you’ll wake up thinking “yay! Time to get up and work on my project”.

This concept is from the book The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod.

And let me tell you, me getting up without hitting the snooze button is nothing short of a miracle.

3 Brilliant Reads for Lockdown Learning

Lockdown is here. As much as it sucks, it also has benefits: extra time to focus on yourself, your goals and your dreams.

This month, I’ve set a goal to read three books (this will be a dramatic improvement upon how much I usually read).

I believe we’d all be better off reading the same personal development book over and over and actually applying the principles, instead of reading new books all the time and never implementing the content.

So these are the three books I’m focusing on this month, with intent to implement them as best as I can:

1. Grit by Angela Duckworth

2. Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

3. The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

What books are you reading during the lockdown?

Are you willing to wait?

Are you willing to wait 10 years to make it?

This was a question I asked myself today.

Are you willing to wait 30 years? 50?

Be patient enough to wait 50 years.

Remember, the pursuit is the dream. If you have to wait 50 years, you get to live the dream for 50 years.

April Goals

A gorgeous sky at our house last night (no filter!)

Quarantine. Isolation. Lockdown. They used to be words I used to describe other people’s lives. Now they’re part of my daily life.

That means my goals are going to look a little bit different, they’re going to be more restorative than my usual go-go-go goals.

1. I will easily create 7 live videos (on Facebook or Instagram) by April 30, 2020.

2. I will easily heal my shoulder injury 100% by April 30, 2020.

3. I will easily join a volunteer project by April 30, 2020.

4. I will easily complete reading 3 full books by April 30, 2020.

5. I will easily join a business program to advance my skills by April 30, 2020.

What are your April goals? Let me know in the comments or send me a DM on Instagram.

March Goals Review

How did I go with my March goals?

Oh boy. It started out so great. It started out normal. Then March gave us a surprise we weren’t expecting: Coronavirus.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen my life turn upside down so rapidly.

With that in mind, here are my results from my March goals:

1. I will easily join a gym and go weekly by 31st March 2020.
   I did join the gym! Then I got a shoulder injury almost immediately, and decided to wait a week or two to begin. Then Coronavirus hit and it became clear I had to suddenly leave the UK and move back to New Zealand, pronto. Luckily, my gym membership was a pay monthly, cancel anytime offer. So I didn’t even manage to go to the gym once!

2. I will easily hit 60 push ups by 31st March 2020.
   Again, shoulder injury that almost immediately occurred. I began physiotherapy and then… coronavirus. Not achieved.

3. I will easily speak/do a talk in public by 31st March 2020.
   Yes! I completed this, which I am stoked about. It was at a networking event in Brighton and I spoke about how to achieve impossible goals using the process of aligning your identity (who you are) with the result you want. One of my goals this year is to speak on stage (and although this was technically a stage, I’m not counting it as my goal fulfilled quite yet, because I’m excited to speak to a bigger audience than there was at this small networking event).

4. I will easily begin Windmill training by 31st March 2020.
   Again, shoulder injury, coronavirus. Not achieved.

5. I will easily take 10x high quality images for my blog by 31st March 2020.
   I had a photoshoot booked with a photographer, and then… Coronavirus. Social distancing. Staying inside. Gosh, this story is getting old. Not achieved.

So what did I learn?

Sometimes, you can’t control things. Even with the absolute best of intentions and a solid “never give up” attitude, you just can’t make your goals happen. And do you know what? I’m glad I didn’t force it. What use would it have been to double-injure myself, or put my health in danger to get my photoshoot done? In the end, I’m pursuing these goals for the joy of growing. And boy, did I grow this month.

Reevaluating Goals

Sometimes big things happen that make you rethink your goals and dreams. Sometimes it’s an opportunity to push through and show your grit, passion and perseverance, and sometimes it’s a chance to ask yourself if you’re on the right track.

Coronavirus has given me the opportunity to do both.

Here’s what I’m evaluating:

1. My overall “impossible” life goals.
   Do I still want the dreams I set for myself a year ago?

2. My subgoals.
   Do my subgoals still move me toward my overall life goals?

3. 3. My daily tasks.
   Is it still productive and helpful for me to be doing the daily tasks I have been doing in the past?

My Impossible Overall Life Goals are these:

• 100 push ups

• 100k YouTube subscribers

• A video interview series

• Do a windmill in breakdancing

• Build a million dollar business

• Do a TED talk

• Run a tropical retreat

• Meditate daily for a year (complete!)

My 2020 subgoals are these:

• Train for 100 push ups in a row

• Help 111 people achieve their impossible goals through my coaching

• Foster my relationships

• Show up online every single day bringing value (blogging daily for two years)

• Start or join a volunteer project

• Post on YouTube every week

• Speak on stage

• Train for my breakdancing windmill

• Start a Britney Spears Dance Aerobics class

My daily tasks are these:

• Meditate (complete, and it’s now enough of a habit that I don’t need to hold myself accountable every single day)

• Blogging

• Photography for my blog

Changes I have decided to make:

• While I will still blog daily because I am still finding it valuable, I am letting go of my attempt to post “blogger-level” photography. I’m listening to my intution – while it would be nice to have great photos, I don’t want to take pictures every single day. I just don’t desire to put in the effort required to become a great photographer, simply because it doesn’t move me closer to any of my impossible goals. And if it’s not moving me towards my goals, it’s a distraction, moving me away from my goals.

What changes are you making to adjust to the New 2020?