Unconventional Goals

Exercise, business, nutrition, finance, love.

There are few aspects of our lives that we are familiar creating goals in. Every New Year you see hoards of people joining the gym and ransacking libraries because THIS is the year they get fit/take up gardening.

But what about unconventional goals? What kind of things do we never actually think about setting as goals?

Like a 30 day makeover montage from a 90’s film.
Or staging a coup to overthrow the leader of your book club who never let’s anyone else choose the book.
Or working on your South African accent.

I like to set unconventional goals every once in a while. But they’re usually secret ;)

How to Make No-Drama Decisions

What if you just made a decision? What if you knew it wouldn’t matter either way? What if you believed that the future is already fixed in your favour? What if you chose to believe that no matter what decision you make, it will be the right one? That all roads lead to Rome?

That it doesn’t matter if you choose to stay or leave your partner.

That it doesn’t matter if you choose to go into debt or not.

That it doesn’t matter if you take the job or not.

That it doesn’t matter if you do the thing or don’t do the thing.

You can make the decision right now. No more drama about it.

I’ve decided to believe that the future is fixed in my favour. I feel so much better already.

May Goals

Okay, here we go again!

1. I will easily read 10 pages of a book a day in May.
   (This is so that I don't have to read three books in one day at the end of the month like I had to yesterday, haha!) 

2. I will easily grow my Facebook Group, Impossible Girls, to 2000 amazing members by 31st May.
   We’re currently at 500 after just two weeks! My mission is to make this group the most supportive hang out place on the internet. (Join here!)

3. I will easily finish my Logo & Branding by 31st May.
   I've spent ageeees (like, years) procrastinating making a final choice on this. I've decided to make it happen this month.

4. I will easily eat a salad with every lunchtime in May.
   This is a specific health goal because I really want to make sure that I'm eating healthy food. 

5. I will easily do a full morning routine every morning in May.
   This includes mediation, visualisation, affirmations, and journaling. I was inspired by the book The Miracle Morning (which I read most of in one day yesterday, haha!). I did a Kris Jenner meditation this morning and it was amazing (you get to meet her in a cafe and imagine what she would tell you to do) Kris Jenner told me if I want to be successful, I need to work on my publicity (surprise surprise, she's the publicity QUEEN) – so I will add this as a BONUS goal this month: I will easily create a new publicity opportunity by 31st May!

What are your goals for May?

Drop them in the comments and we can hold each other accountable!

April Goals: Review

This month I blew my own mind!
Not just because I achieved all of my goals, but because of how I achieved them all.

These are the goals I set for April:

1. I will easily create 7 live videos (on Facebook or Instagram) by April 30, 2020.
   Completed!

   My friend Nicole Middleton challenged me to do this. The first 6 days were torture, and I was vowing to never do another livestream ever again. I thought about telling Nicole I wasn’t feeling well. But I convinced myself not to – I knew that the habit of the habit was more important than the habit itself. Then the 7th day, I actually enjoyed it. Now I make them all the time. I did at least 15!

2. I will easily heal my shoulder injury 100% by April 30, 2020.
   Completed!

   Earlier in the year I injured myself doing push ups, and then aggravated my shoulder further with too much work at a computer. I've seen a physiotherapist (online) and it's finally on the mend, thank goodness. Nothing is going to hold me back from my impossible goal of doing 100 push ups in a row – I will hopefully be able to get back into training soon!

3. I will easily join a volunteer project by April 30, 2020.
   Completed!

   One of my main passions and missions is to create a world where animals are not unnecessarily harmed, so I will be volunteering for The Vegan Society. I’m super excited about this opportunity to contribute! I spent all month wondering what volunteer project to join (and I originally enquired to Age Concern NZ about telephoning elderly people weekly to keep them from being too isolated during lockdown, but they didn’t need any extra volunteers).
   

4. I will easily complete reading 3 full books by April 30, 2020.
   Completed!

   I half-read three books, and yesterday I imagined writing this saying “I didn’t achieve this, but I’ll try harder next time.” And then I thought, I could just try harder this time. It’s not over till it’s over. And I still had 24 hours. I actually did it! This must be the most reading I’ve crammed into one day in years. But it was so worth it. Because it’s not about reading – it’s about deciding to be the person that I want to be. How will I achieve my impossible goals if I can’t even follow through with my monthly goals? I’ve decided I’m the kind of person who commits and follows through with her goals.
   The books I read were:
   – Grit by Angela Duckworth
   – The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod
   – Think & Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill

5. I will easily join a business program to advance my skills by April 30, 2020.
   Completed!

   I joined Stacey Boehman's 2k for 2k program. This was a mission and a half because things turned upside with lockdown. But I was so damn committed to this. I wanted it bad. I got creative. I made it work. (Even if the money accidentally went into the wrong bank account, oops – it got sorted eventually!).

I’m looking forward to sharing my May goals with you tomorrow (this year is going so quickly!).

I'll Do Whatever It Takes

April is almost up, and I still haven’t completed two of my April Goals.

I haven’t read three books yet (I’ve half-read three different books).
And I also haven’t joined a volunteer project yet.

I had a thought today, like "I'm just gonna give up, there's no way I can read three books in a day and also join a volunteer project.”

And then there was this inner voice.

"Watch me."

When my intuition talks, I listen.

Why should I finish these silly books, it won't really impact anything, right? Wrong. Because I desire to be THE KIND OF PERSON who can achieve any goal she sets her mind to.

How on earth will I ever achieve my impossible goals if I'm not 100% committed to my smaller goals?

If I set a goal, I'm busting my booty to achieve it, right till the last minute, I’ve decided that’s just who I am. I don't give up.

So on that note: my next 24 hours is dedicated to finishing THREE books and joining a volunteer project. I’m going to do whatever it takes.

Looking forward to updating you tomorrow with my full April Goals review!

I Want to Live a Life of Risks and Bold Moves

I want to live a life of risks and bold moves.

• That's why I moved countries from NZ to England on a whim.

• That's why I got trained as a High Performance Coach in Arizona, despite the 5 figure price tag.

• That's why I set a goal to do 100 push ups in a row despite never having been able to do one in my life (and why I'm already at 50!).

I'm willing to bet that you're bold too.

We are defying norms, you and me.

We don't want to do mediocre things.

We want to do impossible things.

The More I Have, The More I Can Help Others

“It’s not right to be rich when others are so poor.”
”It’s not right to be happy when others are so unhappy.”
”It’s not right to be loved when others don’t have love.”

All of these statements are beliefs I see in my work with my clients often. I’ve been aware of thinking some of these thoughts myself before.

Here’s why none of it is true.

Because:
”I can do more to help others when I’m wealthy than when I’m broke.”
”I can be of service to others more easily when I’m not worrying about my own issues.”
”The more love there is in the world, the less suffering there is.”

The first set of beliefs feel rooted in lack and fear, and they evoke guilt.

The second set of beliefs just feels so much better, right? They are empowering. They are inspiring. They make me want to make this world a better place.

Sometimes I feel the need to justify my goal of creating a million-dollar business.

But I know that the more money I make, the more I can help others. The more jobs I can create. The more impact I can make in this world.

I have let go of my guilt for wanting more. Because the more I have – money, love, happiness, the more I can help others.

Why You Should Stop Working On your Dreams And What To Do Instead

The biggest mistake I have ever made is working ON my dreams, instead of IN my dreams.

When you work ON your dreams, you’re setting up shop. You’re planning, you’re organising, you’re thinking about doing. But you’re not actually doing.

Examples of working ON your dream:

• Changing the font on your website

• Deciding on a name for your book

• Watching other people pursue your dream on YouTube

• Thinking about creating a podcast

• Planning to create a plan (you’d be surprised how much we do this)

• Doing “market research” before you can make a decision

• Talking about your dream with friends

• Anything else that is disguised as working on your dream, but when it comes down to it, it hasn’t actually moved you any closer to your dream

Examples of working IN your dream:

• Meeting potential clients

• Doing the necessary workout

• Creating and publishing content

• Writing the chapters of your book

• Recording the podcast

• Making offers to help people

• Actually helping people

• Anything else that is actually doing the thing that moves you closer towards your dream

I’m so guilty of of working ON my dream. It’s sneaky. It feels like progress, but it’s not.

If you meet my past self, please tell her this.

You Can Create Any Result You Want

We live in an infinite universe, with infinite possibility. Any and every possibility you can imagine is available in this world. You just have to align yourself with it.

Alignment: a tool for creating any result you want. 

Coming soon.

Why You Should Take The Risk You've Been Holding Back On

Taking risks doesn’t always pay off the way you expect. But it always pays off.

Every investment I have ever made – into my personal development, my studies, my work, my health – has always paid off.

I’ve made some great investments, and I’ve made some unwise investments too. The kind where they promise you oodles of money if you just sign up for their “special secret system” and you end up feeling bamboozled and asking for a refund.

This didn’t just happen to me once. Or even twice. This happened to me three times.

At the time, it felt like I had been ripped off.

But then, a few months down the track, I saw how the investment might not have directly paid off, but indirectly, it taught me a lot about business. A small price to pay for a lesson learned.

I don’t even care that I lost money. If I had to do it all over again, I’d do it exactly the same.

I want to live a life of bold moves. I want to be the kind of person who takes risks, and believes in herself.

My great aunt bought a house before she even saw it.

Some might say that is foolish, but if it is, I aspire to that kind of foolishness.

I want to take giant risks and live with my heart on my sleeve. I want to live.