Email someone who could help you achieve your goal and offer to help THEM for free, asking nothing in return.

Bonus points for the subject line being: “I want to work for you for free.”

(100% reply rate in my experience).

I’ve thought long and hard about this one. Because I refuse to give up on my goals and dreams. Ever.

But what happens when a dream is something I no longer want?

I also refuse to spend my precious time on this earth pursuing a dream that is no longer a dream.

So, I am officially breaking up with of one of my goals: 100k Subscribers on YouTube.

Because it dawned on me that if hit 100k on YouTube – I would be a YouTuber. And I would have to put out more videos.

I don’t want to be a YouTuber.

I want to be a coach – and I am.

I don’t want to do both.

It’s not that I don’t like making videos. I do.

It’s just that it’s not what I want to spend most of my time doing.

And if I aim for 100k on YouTube, guess what? 

I’ll most definitely be putting myself in a position where I then need to spend most of my time creating YouTube videos.

I am not “quitting” YouTube (can I even say that as someone who isn’t actually a YouTuber?).

I may still put out videos from time to time.

I will certainly still binge-watch other people’s content.

But I realize that my goal was misdirected.

There’s a litmus test you can do to see if you still want your goal:

Ask yourself, “Would I still want this goal if I didn’t have to work for it?”

If someone handed me 100k subscribers on a plate right now, I wouldn’t take it.

I don’t want the life that comes with it.

So don’t give up on your goals because they’re hard.

Break up with them because you no longer want the end result.

At the beginning of the year or month, it always feels amazing to set an impossible goal.

Because it’s easy to feel good about a goal you haven't started yet.

It's exciting, you've got time ahead of you, your belief is strong.

You haven't had to take action yet, and you haven't had to OWN your goal yet.

When you're freaking out and doing an ugly cry on your bathroom floor, it's because you're finally taking the goal seriously.

If you're not freaking out, fantastic.

But if you are, know that it is part of the impossible goal-getting process, and your only job is to love yourself and keep going.

THIS IS HAPPENING.

The official Impossible Girls 5 DAY CHALLENGE:

Make Your First Dollar Doing What You LOVE

Inspired by the conversations in my Facebook Group over the last few days, I'm going LIVE each day this week to walk you through the steps to making your first dollar (at least!) doing what you love in FIVE DAYS.

Shifting from seeing yourself as a “newbie” or a "struggling entrepreneur" to being someone who makes money in business is the most important thing you can do at the beginning of your entrepreneurial journey.

By the end of the week, my goal is to get EVERYONE who participates over the line to officially be a paid coach/artist/consultant/brand designer/*insert your thing here*.

What we're going to cover:

• How to create a compelling offer that people actually want to buy

• Pricing/how much you should charge for your offer in the beginning

• Exactly where to find your ideal clients/customers

• How to get those to come to YOU (we won't be chasing after people or sliding into DMs)

(If you've already made your first dollar, you can still participate – and set the goal at $100 or $1000 for 5 days).

The challenge is totally free, but it could be the most important thing you do all year.

We start Monday.

To participate, join the group here.

This is the first month in our new apartment in Wellington, so I feel a bit like a kid at Christmas! I used to live here as a student but coming back as my own boss feels like a whole different version of me – and the city feels so different now.

1. Grow my Impossible Girls Facebook Group to 5000 members!
   We’re currently on 3900 members, and they’re all the love of my life. I genuinely feel a massive pull to grow the group to include more people with big dreams so everyone can help each other. I mean, the more members, the higher chance someone will be able to connect you to the person you’re looking for or support you in your goal.

2. Show up every single day in my group and add more love than ever before.
   Most days I show up in the group. But I don’t just want to show up. I want to make an impact – that’s the entire reason I started the group, so we can all support each other. I have already created a whole list of ways I want to show up with love to this group this month, and I can’t wait to share them with you guys. If you’re not in the group, you definitely want to be this month! Join here.

3. Do some of our Tony Robbins relationship course each day.
   Last month I set the goal to complete the Ultimate Relationships Course with my boyfriend, but I realised that rushing it defeats the purpose. Just like the relationship itself, the idea should be to enjoy the process, not rush to the end.

4. Mindset journaling every single morning, no excuses.
   My most successful goal-getting months last year were the months where I did the most mindset work. I stayed in my certainty that the goal would happen. I came back to the breakthrough energy several times each day. I stepped into being my future self 10, 15, 20 times a day. This is the most important one on the entire list!

5. Go walking 3x a week.
   Our apartment is right in the centre of the city, and I absolutely can’t wait to go walking on the waterfront and explore the streets again. Tomorrow, I’ve got a 6:45 am walk-and-drink-coffee date with my best friend Georgia and I’m actually keen to get up that early to begin!

6. Join a hip hop class.
   I have been waiting, waiting, waiting for this moment, where I can finally put roots down and join a dance class knowing that I won’t be leaving anytime soon. I’m here in Wellington for the foreseeable future so I can’t wait to get involved with all the classes and events.

7. See friends 3x a week.
   I feel so lucky to have the luxury to see people in person without restrictions in New Zealand, so I want to make the most of it and hang out with my friends as much as I can. Lots of people have a “word of the year”, and I never created one, so I decided to create a “word for this city” – Friendship.

What are your March Goals? Let me know in the comments!

February went by so quickly – is it really fair to have a month with only 28 days when the rest get 30 or 31?

1. Get more photos done with the lovely Aimee Jules Photography (to move closer to my goal of up-leveling my photos and graphics).
   DONE! You guys, we had the most epic location for this shoot and I can’t wait to share the photos with you once they’re out. This had to be rescheduled three times, and almost didn’t happen. But I was totally determined and we managed to book it in on the very last day before I moved cities.
   

2. Listen/watch Tony Robbins’ Ultimate Relationship Program with my boyfriend, Daniel
   INCOMPLETE. We did something on it most days in February, and actively made the decision not to rush through it just to get it done – the whole point of doing it is to strengthen our relationship, not to finish the course.
   

3. Do 4 Livestreams
   DONE! I actually did 5 livestreams – just because I remembered how fun they are. I’m looking forward to doing more of them again.
   

4. Journaling on this one question, every single time I create content: How can I put out the most valuable content on the internet today?
   DONE. I had a whole revelation this month based on this. A LOT is going to change in my group, so if you’re not already there, make sure you head there asap! :)
   

5. Finish re-reading my favourite book of all time, The 9 Secrets of Women Who Get What They Want by Kate White
   INCOMPLETE. Bizarrely, I have misplaced this book. I’m so confused, because it’s not a small book and I was reading it recently. I’ve literally just packed up all of my belongings to move, and I didn’t see it. So I didn’t hit this goal. As soon as I find the book, I’m back on it! (Hoping it’s somewhere in one of the boxes!).

Did you hit your February Goals? Let me know in the comments by clicking the title of the post.

Daniel and I have officially packed up all of our belongings. They’re currently stuffed into a car, two decks below me on the ferry as I write this.

The first time I moved to Wellington was filled with unknown delight and excitement as an 18 year old.

I met Daniel there – at breakfast.

When I left, I was shedding a past self. Someone I didn’t want to be anymore.

I’m back.

But this time, life is wildly different.

I left Wellington at 21, with a degree that I didn’t know what to do with, confusion about my career and no job prospects. All I wanted to do was travel the world.

I return at 24, 19 countries later, as my own boss, with a coaching certification, 17 private coaching clients, a 6-year relationship, 50 push ups stronger, and impossible plans for the future.

Wellington: Season 2 is here.

You don’t want to miss it. 

Some of the best advice I’ve ever heard came from Kate White, ex-Editor in Chief of Cosmopolitan magazine:

When you want something, first find Waldo.

(Where I’m from, Waldo is called Wally (why did they need to rename him?) but you know the one, right? The guy dressed in a stripy red and white outfit from the children’s puzzle book?)

The idea is that there’s always someone who can give you what you want, or tell you exactly how to get it.

So often we try to do it on our own when if we just found Waldo, it would instantly make our goals 10x easier to achieve.

One of my clients had been trying to get work with a famous company for 5 months with no luck. We sent memos and emails and applied through their company website. Nothing. Crickets.

The moment she made contact with one of their employees, BAM – an instant referral to the CEO, who immediately offered her a job.

There is always a Waldo. Find them.

Just in case no one has asked you: What do you truly, deeply desire? 

This week, my partner and I signed to rent an apartment in Wellington, New Zealand. Woot woot! #Celebrate!

(It’s like, a ridiculously hot market right now so to get an apartment we actually like is a huge triumph!)

When COVID hit England, we immediately headed home to New Zealand, and we’ve been living in various parts of the country since then. But our ultimate plan was always to move back to Wellington (where we lived and studied at University before moving to Brighton, England).

It’s been almost three whole years since we left (almost as long as we lived there!) and we’re both SO excited to head back and begin a new chapter in Wellington.

Watch this space!

I can always tell if someone is going to hit their goal – even if they haven’t said what their goal is.

Because achieving your goal has literally nothing to do with the goal itself.

It’s purely about the way you’re pursuing it.

There are only 3 steps to achieving any goal (even an impossible one).

1. Create a simple plan

2. Actually do the things in the plan

3. Manage your thoughts about it

It doesn’t matter if your goal is to start a business or write a book or create a new client – if one of these steps is missing, it’s going to stop you right in your tracks.

And I see this all the time – passionate people, with all the motivation in the world, and somehow they’re still stuck.

Because their plan is too complicated.

And they’re not actually doing the things they know they should be doing.

And they’re freaking out over any obstacle that shows up.

These three steps might seem simple, but my clients would agree – nothing has been more important to their success.

It’s how my client Keira opened a book shop in 9 weeks.

And how my client Katrin’s program completely sold out on her first launch.

And how my client Niamh signed a celebrity client.

And how my client Nancy became a digital nomad and moved to Colombia.

And how I grew an audience of over 24,000 people and became my own boss.

If you’re serious about hitting your goal, your job is to spend all of your energy focused on nailing these three steps – and zero energy on anything that takes you away from them.

1. Create a simple plan

2. Actually do the things in the plan

3. Manage your thoughts about it

Throw out the rest.

There are 28 days in this month. 

Because this year I set my goals out Quarterly, I already have a rough idea of what I need to do this month.

1. Get more photos done with the lovely Aimee Jules Photography (to move closer to my goal of up-leveling my photos and graphics).
   
   Helpful thought: Making time for this is a priority to me.
   

2. Listen/watch Tony Robbins’ Ultimate Relationship Program with my boyfriend, Daniel (he has been away for most of January so we haven’t had a chance to do the work together yet!). I also just realized it’s Valentine’s month so it fits perfectly.
   
   Helpful thought: This gets to be so fun!
   

3. Do 4 Livestreams
   I LOVE doing Livestreams because I always feel so much more connected to the Impossible Girls. but I always forget to do them/don’t make them a priority. This month, that’s changing!
   
   Helpful thought: There’s someone out there right now who needs to hear my message.
   

4. Journaling on this one question, every single time I create content: How can I put out the most valuable content on the internet today? It’s really important to me that this group is a place where women can come and actually get support for their goals. This is my favourite place to hang out online, and I want to keep it that way! :)
   
   Helpful thought: One piece of content could change someone’s life.
   

5. Finish re-reading my favourite book of all time, The 9 Secrets of Women Who Get What They Want by Kate White (it’s the book that sparked my goal-getting life at 14 years old!). It’s a nightmare to get hold of because it was published in 1998 and there aren’t very many copies. I keep giving my copies away, haha! I found a copy on Amazon UK and it took 4 weeks to arrive in NZ, but it’s finally here and I’m SO excited to read it!
   
   Helpful thought: This is my favourite thing to read!
   

Have you set your February goals yet?

1. Attend the Mastermind with an open mind, ready to take any coaching on board.
   Done! I’ll be honest – it was a rollercoaster. I was being pushed beyond my business limits in a way I didn’t expect. I felt pressure. I got confused. I cried. But I also danced and felt euphoric and like I was stepping into a whole new mental level that I wasn’t expecting to step into for at least another 3 years. It was one of the best experiences of my life. All I can say is, INVEST in your growth, whatever that looks like for you. Because up-leveling YOU means everything you do gets an automatic up-level too.

2. Slowly move myself onto New York time a week ahead of the mastermind (and wear a watch set at Eastern time to remind me).
   Done! My entire life, I’ve always believed I was a night owl. But it turns out I CAN be a morning person if I have a good reason to get up. I was getting up at 1:30am daily without any trouble at all (I was going to sleep at 6pm). All this time I thought I “couldn’t do mornings”. Who knew?!

3. Do my physiotherapy exercises daily.
   Yup. As painful as they are (physically and mentally), I’ve been doing them every single day. And I confessed to my physiotherapist that I didn’t do them for most of December. It was a good kick in the booty! 🙈

4. Actually create all of my content on Fridays.
   Done! And I was SO pleased that I created two weeks of content ahead of time for while I was at the mastermind because I ended up “jet-lagged” for an entire week after.
   

Did you hit your January goals? Leave a comment to let me know!

Today is an epic day.

Last January, I coached my client Nancy on her ability to create just $10 in a business of her own.

She told me she wasn’t sure if she could do it yet, because she didn’t have anything to offer.

We brainstormed ideas that included:

• Selling $1 tickets to a premier viewing of her latest YouTube video to 10 of her friends (including free popcorn)

• Editing someone else’s YouTube video

• Making and selling t-shirts

Eight months after that first conversation, Nancy quit her job because she was making enough money in her YouTube freelancing business to support herself full time.

Today, just 12 months after her first $1 popcorn viewing, she is MOVING TO COLOMBIA to officially begin living as a full time digital nomad, just because she can.

Her self-concept has transformed.

She is no longer Nancy the corporate office worker.

She is Nancy the digital nomad who works and lives from anywhere in the world.

It wasn’t straight forward at all.

She had to finish her degree.

She had to work in a job she despised.

She had to disappoint family members.

She had to fire a client.

She had to overcome her mind drama.

And she still made it through.

One. year.

You crushed it, Nancy.

Send us a postcard!

I got so caught up in sharing my 2020 goals that I realised I didn’t even share my January Goals 😂

So, even though we’re half way through the month, here they are (I’ve been working on them, I promise!)

1. Attend the Mastermind with an open mind, ready to take any coaching on board.
   I noticed that I’ve been having some unhelpful thoughts about what I might be coached on during the mastermind, so I decided to do some self-coaching ahead of time. Helpful thoughts I am choosing: My coach wants me to succeed, and everything she says and does is to serve me. We are on the same team.
   

2. Slowly move myself onto New York time a week ahead of the mastermind (and wear a watch set at Eastern time to remind me)
   Each day starts at 9am NYC, which is 3am my time in New Zealand, so  I’m getting my body used to waking up earlier and earlier. Today I got up at 3:30am and tomorrow I will get up at 2:00am. I’m not allowing myself to have any drama about it. Just do it.
   

3. Do my physiotherapy exercises daily.
   I realise that I need to strictly discipline myself to do these, otherwise I end up asking “Do I really need to do it today? It won’t matter if I leave it until tomorrow.” That’s a slippery slope that has led me to neglecting my shoulder therapy almost entirely, I’m embarrassed to say. It’s only five minutes, girl. Come ON. So my commitment is to do them every single day this month, no matter what.
   

4. Actually create all of my content on Fridays
   In December I started creating all of my content weekly, but I discovered that if I miss the day I planned to do it, suddenly I’m seven days behind – which creates a big mess in my schedule. So in January, I have committed to writing my weekly content on Fridays (and not leaving it until the last minute of the day, either!).

Did you share your January goals? 👇

My Quarterly Planning:

I have decided to split my 2021 Goals up into quarterly sections so I know which goals to focus on, and when.

Quarter 1:

• Hire a Facebook growth manager

• Uplevel my photos and graphics

• Heal my shoulder (I want to make sure this is part of every quarter, but really focus on it in the beginning to maximise my progress by the end of the year).

• Ultimate relationship program

Quarter 2:

• Create a beautiful office space to work in

• Start and continue a podcast

• Do weekly classes (art, singing, languages, sport) with Daniel (beginning in Q2 because then we’ll likely be settled in Wellington)

Quarter 3: 

• Create a video series

• Go to a Tony Robbins live/virtual event (Probably UPW in September)

Quarter 4:

• I will easily do 20 perfect-form push ups in a row

• Double my emergency fund

Habits for the entire time:

• Donate at LEAST 1% of my income (COMPLETE for January already!)

• Delete and not use social media on my phone (only on the computer)

• Do content creation on Fridays

• Finish working by 6pm daily

• Be 5 minutes early

Has anyone else tried quarterly planning for their big goals?