What if..?

What if you didn’t need anything extra to achieve your goals?

No more money, no more time, no more knowledge, no more influence.

What if you realised you already had everything you need to achieve it?

What if you just got started?

Push Ups Update & Training Routine

Day: 129
Push up ability: 26

Today I hit 26! That’s my personal best and over 1/4 of the way to my 100 push ups goal.

I’ve been getting so much advice from so many people across my social platforms, it’s been awesome to feel so much support. I’ve had people creating short videos with advice for workouts, mindset coaches reaching out with tips, people suggesting nutritionists and personal trainers offering to help. The power of community is beautiful.

Today my goal on the calendar was 30 push ups. I hit 26 before collapsing, but I’m impressed that I managed to do that many because my arms have been super sore from intense training during the last couple of days.

Now what I’ve been doing is pushing myself to exhaustion at every workout (my arms are even shaking a little as I type this!).

Now my training routine is:

1. Doing as many push ups as I can in a row
2. 20-second rest
3. Doing as many knee push ups as I can in a row
4. 20-second test
5. Doing as many floor drops as I can( I’m sure there’s a legit name for this, I’m talking about where you get in plank/push up position and lower yourself fully to the ground very slowly, then get up and repeat it).

I’m excited that my body is beginning to feel challenged, I’m noticing it’s a lot sorer (in a good way) recently. I once heard someone say “muscle pain after a workout is the feeling of getting better looking.”

Now as well as making sure my form is correct, I want to start truly going as deep as I can, because they are currently quite shallow push ups (I’m not going as far down as I could).

Looking forward to updating you again soon!

Excuses

If you think you have a problem, you don’t. You just have an excuse. I had to be harsh on myself today and admit that I haven’t been putting in the work I need to, to get me towards my dreams.

My excuses are disguised as problems or struggles, which sound more legitimate than excuses. But the truth is, I already know (and so do you) EXACTLY how to achieve my goals.

I just have to DO THE WORK. 

And I can say I’m doing the work. But when I truly look at myself in the mirror, can I say I put in 100% every day?

Not yet. Not even close.

Because if I truly was putting in 100% every day, I wouldn’t be making excuses for why I’m not there yet. 

You don’t need more strategy.

You know what you need to be doing. 

Now do it.

You can be the happiest person in the world

Someone out there is the happiest person in the world. Why can’t it be you?

Happiness is a state of mind that you get to decide.
Therefore, that title is yours for the taking.

The happiest person in the world.

The only condition for you to be the happiest person in the world is for you to believe it.

What would your life feel like if you truly believed you were the happiest person in the world?
What would your relationships be like?
What would your health be like?
What would you career be like?

What is stopping you from being the happiest person in the world? If you are reading this blog post right now, chances are you have all of your basic needs met. Food, water, shelter, warmth. The rest is up to you.

That’s why I have a poster on my wall that affirms that I am, in fact, the happiest person in the world.

Repeat after me: I am the happiest person in the world.

Why You Need to Set 2030 Goals Now

What are your 2030 goals?

While everyone else is worrying about what they’ll do in 2020, now is the time to think bigger. Where do you want to be in a decade?

A decade ago today, Instagram didn’t exist, and now it dominates our lives (can you imagine going back to before social media?!). The iPhone wasn’t mainstream. Justin Bieber wasn’t famous.

In one year, you might get some stuff done, but when you’ve got a decade to play with, you can think properly big, seriously impossible.

Think 2030, then take your actions from 2020.

I’m off for my own 2030 journaling session now.

Blognitive Dissonance

In psychology, cognitive dissonance is where you have two conflicting beliefs or ideas about something.

E.g. someone continuing smoking, despite knowing the negative health effects.

Right now, I’m experiencing blognitive dissonance – two conflicting thoughts about my blog. I’m unsure which style I’d like to blog in:

1. Documentation of my life. Sharing my own lifestyle, goals and experiences day to day, complete with images from my own life. I love reading blogs about what other people are up to, and I love watching daily vlogs on YouTube.

2. Sharing my philosophical ideas, personal development tips and advice. No need to create my own images. I can do this in bed in my pajamas at 1am and still pump out some words onto a page that still have value.

Option 1 feels egocentric and takes a lot of work, and option 2 feels impersonal and lazy.

What would you rather see from me?

Here’s how today’s post would go, considering both options:

Documentation Option

Yesterday we flew into Tenerife to get some much needed sun (Brighton is freezing at the moment!). I’m on day 15 of my 50 push ups in 30 days challenge, which means I have to do 20 push ups today. To be honest, I’m a bit nervous about it, because 25 is my record, and it took me a while to build up to that last time, and since I’ve been on this super-charged 50 push ups schedule I haven’t had as much time to build up my strength. I never have any photos of my push ups because I’m always alone when I do them! Tomorrow I’ll get my sister to film and photograph me doing them I think, so you can see where I’m up to.

I've also been thinking about doing a 2020 Impossible Goal Setting Workshop online, so anyone can attend from all over the world. Let me know if you’d prefer to watch a Facebook Live or join a group together on Zoom, I’ll be doing it in few weeks, before the New Year. (I’m SUPER excited for the New Year – NYE always has a special magic to it for me. The start of a new era, a fresh start, a new opportunity!).

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Theory Option

Habit Tracker

External accountability is one of the most important things you can possibly do to make a goal happen. For more than a year I’ve been using the HabitShare app, which means that I share my goals with my accountability partners and they can see when I’ve checked in. It looks like this:

So if you read my post from the other day, you’ll know one of my philosophies is: if it matters, do it daily. These are the 5 things I’m doing every single day.

1. Meditation. I meditate every single day because I set myself the challenge to do it for 365 days in a row. Tracking it makes it 100x easier to remember to do.

2. Vitamins. I take vitamins and some medications I need to thrive, and they are so important to me, I never want to skip them. I used to go days without taking them because I would forget. Now, because every night before I sleep, I check my Habit Tracker, I never ever forget.

3. Daily blog for two years – another challenge. I’d been wanting to blog for about 5 years, and I’d only been occasionally publishing. Once I set the challenge I knew I would need a tracker to keep me accountable. You can look back through my posts and see that I have indeed posted on my blog every single day for the past 146 days – and will do for at least 730 days (who knows, maybe after two years of blogging I will set another blogging challenge).

4. Funnel Diet. Despite the name, it has nothing to do with food! I called it a diet because I want to work on it with the intensity and force someone would if they were on a diet. A diet requires sacrifice and a lot of thought power dedicated to it. I’m committing to a short term sprint of working on my sales funnel until it’s done, rather than a long term lifestyle choice, like my vitamins or my blog. To me, being on a funnel diet means working on my sales funnel every single day, and tracking it. I know this is the one thing (implementing a great sales funnel) will make a difference to my audience reach. Eventually this ‘diet’ will finish and I will replace this daily habit with the next thing that is my #1 priority. Tracking it is crucial to staying on track, because even if it’s two in the morning, I know I better do something towards it.

5. Push Ups 50! This is another sprint goal. I have an overall goal of 100 push ups, but this month I have decided to hit 50, and I’m following a plan. Today I need to do 20 in a row, and to be honest I’m a bit nervous because 15 was tough, but I’m ready for this! I can do it. Keep track of it alongside my other goals makes me feel so dedicated to it, especially because I HATE seeing a red circle on my tracker. It feels like I’ve ruined everything.

Tracking my habits has changed my life and I’m so grateful to have the ability to do this (but you don’t need a fancy app – ever since I was a kid I’ve been making habit trackers with gold stars and stickers!).

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Which one did you like better?
As I wrote this, I felt that the content is more thought out for the theory option, but it’s more fun with the photos in the Documentation option. In an ideal world, I would like to mix the two and have strong content AND strong photos, but I’m not sure how that would work, because my pictures don’t match my habit tracker. Hmm.

Let me know what you think in the comments!

Everything is Figureoutable

The brilliant entrepreneur Marie Forleo has recently released her book, Everything Is Figureoutable and I've been totally engrossed in it on the plane to Tenerife today.

The idea is simple: every problem is solvable. But Marie declares that taking on this one empowering belief can override all of your other unwanted beliefs.

HOWEVER – I would like to take Marie’s mantra one step further.

I now know that there is something even more powerful than beliefs: identity. Ever since I’ve overcome my fear of flying, I’ve been absolutely fascinated by the concept of identity. Your identity is a set of beliefs that define who you are. You have the power to change that identity by changing those beliefs.

I’ve also discovered that our results in life are tightly bound to our identity. Our identity (a set of beliefs) creates our thoughts, which creates our feelings, which creates our actions, which creates our results.

Beliefs > thoughts > feelings > actions > results

That means, not only should you take on the belief ‘Everything is Figureoutable’ – you should adopt the identity of “I can figure out anything.” Everything is no longer just figureoutable, YOU are the kind of person who can figure anything out. It’s not just a belief you hold, it’s who you are.

Everything is figureoutable is no longer just a belief, but an identity.

I can figure out anything!

What Is Your 2020 Needle-Mover?

A needle mover is a task that will propel your project or area you are working on to the next level.

I once heard a story about a man who had a whole raft of issues – he was severely overweight, in a troubled relationship, his career was on the rocks, he was a chain smoker and he also chewed gum. He finally decided he needed to make some serious changes in his life – so he chose to stop chewing gum.

Huh?

You have all of those issues, and you chose to use your limited daily willpower to stop chewing gum?

The thing is, this dude clearly had good intentions, and he was ready change his life. He just didn’t stop to think about the actions that would truly propel his life forward. But he was making a crucial mistake: the change he was making wouldn’t propel his life forward to the next level. He needed to focus on one thing that would truly make a difference. Perhaps for him, it was losing weight, leaving his relationship or getting a new job.

If you could only work on ONE thing in 2020 that would propel you forward – just ONE, what would it be?

For me, it’s getting the word out about my members club, Impossible Incubator.

In other words, my sales funnel is my 2020 needle mover.

What is the most important needle-mover for 2020?

Committing to my alarm clock

This morning was tough to get out of bed. That’s not a surprise – it’s always been something I’ve found difficult.

But as a high performance coach, I’m incredibly passionate about pushing my limits to be the best I can be. But it was only recently that I discovered I’d never actually integrated being a high performer into my identity. I loved the concept and loved doing the work, but I didn’t OWN it.

So now I’ve changed my identity to include “I am a High Performer.”

And the funniest thing has happened. My motivation has gone through the roof. I’m actually DOING the things I commit to.

This morning, as usual, I heard my alarms go off:

• 7:30am – Snooze. There’s no way I’m getting up yet.

• 7:32am – Snooze. I’m far too tired. Just 5 more minutes, pleeease.

• 7:35am – Snooze. Don’t even with me right now.

• 7:40am – Snooze. I’m far too tired to… hang on. I am a high performer! Now that I’m a High Performer, what do I do? I follow through on my commitments. And my alarm clock is a commitment! Okay, I’m up.

Identifying with BEING a high performer meant that I felt like I was acting out of alignment with my core values when I snoozed my alarm. I felt accountable to my alarm this morning because I felt the way I started my day was a representation of my true level of performance.

I am a high performer. I no longer press snooze.

How to Get What You Want

It’s not because the diet doesn’t work. It’s because you don’t do the work.

It’s not because your plan didn’t work. It’s because you didn’t do the work. 

Any diet works. Any plan works. 

But did you work?

It’s not what anyone wants to hear. But it’s truer than we’d like to admit. We are the ones who don’t show up.

My clients promise me things all the time. I promise myself things all the time. It’s easy to make a promise. It’s easy to make a commitment. I don’t care if you can make a promise. I want to see you keep a promise.

This answer to how to get what you want is almost too obvious, it gets dismissed. I fear I may not grasp it to its fullest extent yet either.

Show up every day and do the work. Every day. No exceptions. No sick days. No cheat days. Every single day.