De-stress

Technical difficulties. Gah. Who knew launching could be so intense? (Everyone, except me apparently!)
I’ve been staying up until 3am most nights trying to edit my final video for Impossible Incubator. I was super stressed about getting it out on the deadline (August 1), because that’s what all the business gurus say you need to do (plan a massive launch, send out loads of emails yada yada…) but it just wasn’t going to happen.

But then at 12:30am last night I decided to just let it go. Stop forcing it. It will launch when it launches. I want to offer you all THE BEST membership platform I possibly can. August 1 is an arbitrary date. I want to launch the way that I’m most excited and inspired to (and that is NOT writing a million emails and having it drop at exactly August 1 midnight on the dot.)

So today I worked during the day (which is new to me - I so often work late into the night!), and then I went out (for the first time almost a year, I went to a nightclub with my friend Shelley - I’d forgotten how fun they can be!). It felt really good to relax and forget about work for a while.

Now I’m at home, working on my launch again. There’s a reason I work all the time. Because I LOVE my business. It doesn’t feel like work. So I’m 3 days behind schedule and i’m totally unapologetic, because I’m having fun and I feel stress-free.

Maybe Impossible Incubator will come out tomorrow. Maybe it won’t. But either way it doesn’t matter.

Where have you been forcing something that you just need to let go?

'Tired' is just a state of mind

Today I felt exhausted. I had the longest to do list and I just didn’t feel like doing any of it. Especially going for a run.

But I managed to complete WAY more than I thought I would because I changed my beliefs about my mental state. I DECIDED I am full of energy!

Tiredness is just a state of mind.

I’m not talking about physical exhaustion here (just to be clear: you absolutely need to take care of yourself and make sure you’re getting enough sleep and the right nutrition).

I’m talking about the mental exhaustion that we bring upon ourselves in our thoughts. The pretend tiredness. The tiredness we subconsciously CHOOSE to buy into, because we can’t be bothered dealing with the things we know we need to do to progress our lives forward. When you’ve come home after a long day of work and you’ve promised yourself you’ll work on that new business idea or podcast you wanted to start, but then you just end up sitting in front of the TV doing nothing. Your mind is tricking you. You aren’t tired. You’re choosing to feel tired.

I know that this is going to cause some pushback, like my last post!

But the thing is, you already know that you get to choose how you feel. You know that YOU control your thoughts, which control your feelings, which control your actions. You get to change your mental state by changing your beliefs about the situation.

How do you do it?

When I was a kid, people used to ask me how I always had so much energy. I remember being confused and saying, “...you just make it!”

A lesson from my 8 year old self: Try it, right now. Decide to be energised. Close your eyes, and consciously imagine filling your whole body with energy, starting from your toes and bringing it all the way to the crown of your head. Feel it vibrating through your body. Throw your hands up in the air and jump up! Put on a song and dance around! Your mind has the power to give yourself renewed energy.

I choose to feel energised!

Envy is inspiration in disguise

Nice girls don’t get jealous.

We’ve banished envy to the naughty corner, making it out to be this awful emotion that we should feel guilty for even FEELING, let alone ADMITTING.

What absolute BS. I’m outing myself, I get jealous! Absolutely, outrageously emerald with envy! And I’m unapologetic about it.

Today, I was scrolling through Instagram and it just hit me like a WAVE. Ka-DOOSH! I got a major hit of envy over someone I really admire, who’s absolutely crushing it in business, seemingly without any effort. She posted a photo about her fabulous life and I turned into a green monster faster than you can say “50,000 likes”. But you know what? I’m not feeling an ounce of guilt for feeling that way. Instead of pretending I wasn’t jealous, I just admitted it! I don’t want to pretend that I’m not jealous.

BUT instead of letting that jealousy turn into vengeance, we can allow jealousy to guide us.

Jealousy is a desire compass. It’s inspiration in disguise.

WHY am I jealous of her?

1. She has built her business to a brilliant level of success in a really short amount of time

2. She has loads of followers who care about what she’s doing

3. People ADORE and rave about her products and services

4. She makes loads of money (I’m definitely going to talk about money in another post, I have so much to say on this topic!)

5. She’s so honest with the world

6. She’s constantly traveling to exotic places

What does that say about my desires?

1. I desire a level of success like she has

2. I’d love to have a follower base who really care about the work I do

3. I want to put out brilliant products and services

4. I’d love to make loads of money (again, soooo taboo for women to say, going to discuss this in the future!)

5. I would like to be more honest with the world

6. I’d love to do more travel

Why am I grateful to her?

1. Because she has shown me what is possible for me

2. Because she has made mistakes I can learn from

3. Because she has paved a path that I can follow

All of a sudden I feel fantastically inspired and excited and motivated! If it weren’t for her, I wouldn’t even KNOW I wanted all of those things. She helped guide my desires. I want to THANK her for showing me a future I can have! I want to rise up to the challenge of building that for myself, not tear her down to make me feel better about my own situation.

Let your envy drive your heart to unexpected places.

Ever wonder what your purpose is, where to go next, or where to begin? Let envy take hold of the wheel and it will drive you to the foot of someone else’s castle to show you what to build. Your only job now is to lay your first brick.

Mantra: My Envy Is My Inspiration.

Also on the list of things I got jealous of today: This bathroom I saw at a friend’s house.
Flipping the jealousy into inspiration: I now know the exact bathroom I want in my future dream house.