Usually I have mostly business-related goals, but this month I’m feeling the pull to focus on my health and relationships. I've healed my shoulder (whaaaat?! More on this soon!) so it feels like a great time to get back into some more rigorous health routines.

1. Do a cardio workout at least 4x a week
   I was doing cardio before, but kind of being cautious and holding back. Now that I know I’m safe to exercise, I’m excited to just go for it! I track my satisfaction across different life arenas, and my health arena has been steadily climbing. My goal is to get from a 7/10 to an 8/10 in the health arena this month.

2. Join a dance class with Daniel
   We just signed up to Lindy Hop Swing Dancing classes (1940s/1950s style) and some of our friends are coming too. I’ve done it once before and it’s a real workout!

3. Actively revisit the Ultimate Relationship Program
   Some of you may recall that I was doing this Tony Robbins relationship program with Daniel. It’s super comprehensive and definitely not a “10-day program” as it’s suggested to be. I’d recommend spending at least 3 months on it! So now we’re going to revisit the next level of teachings and content. We just celebrated our 6 year anniversary in May, and we’re ready to dive back in!

4. Double my emergency fund
   I was leaving this goal for the end of the year in my planning, but it looks like I’m ahead of schedule. Does anyone else get major satisfaction from building an emergency fund? (I’ve watched a LOT of Dave Ramsey videos haha).

What are your June goals? Comment below or write your own post for us to get inspired!

Five months into 2021. How can that be REAL? Here’s my rundown of my May Goals:

1. Complete the back healing work by Dr Sarno
   DONE. I’ve finished reading (listening) to his book on audible, and I have to say, May has been the month with the least back/neck/shoulder pain that I’ve had in the last year and a half. I’m OVER THE MOON! I’m also doing 21 day e-book program by another author, who put it together through the teachings of Dr Sarno. I’m going to do a proper review/talk about my back pain, but for now – if you have any type of chronic pain at all, READ OR WATCH SOMETHING BY DR SARNO! I mean it when I say it’s life-changing.
   

2. Mindset journal every day in May
   INCOMPLETE. Some days I did this in my journal, some days in my phone, but there were a few days I didn’t do. I realise it was because I wasn’t checking in with my goal list for May enough, to stay on track. I let myself off the hook too easily. However, I can say that daily, I still thought about the question, “Who do I need to BE to create the result I want?”
   

3. Implement steps to make my daily work tasks more effortless
   DONE. I changed some of the privacy settings on my social media accounts so that I’m not receiving as many spam messages, which is really helping me stay on task. I’ve also been repurposing my blog content and social media posts to create new ones, and that makes the “show up every day” motto that I live by a lot more effortless. Additionally, today I started getting up at 6am to write and create content to make the rest of my day more effortless (hey, it’s May 31st, it still counts towards this goal!).
   

4. Start tap dancing (excited about this one because I danced for 13 years as a kid!)
   DONE. I’ve been to four classes and I’m loving being back. I joined an advanced class and discovered that while I know how to do all of the steps, the challenge has been to re-train my brain to learn choreography as quickly as it’s being taught! I posted my life assessment categories the other day, and the satisfaction in my “hobbies” category has increased because I joined tap. In June, I’ve signed up to do Lindy Hop Swing Dancing and a dance fitness class too. I’m excited to get back into dancing in a big way!

Did you hit your May Goals? Let me know in the comments!

Here is a list of all the impossible goals my clients are currently pursuing.

1. Getting a book published with the world’s biggest publisher

2. Falling in love/finding a relationship

3. Becoming a full-time copywriter

4. Creating a full-time income as a coach for dog parents

5. Editing the first draft of their novel

6. Taking a business from side hustle to full time

7. Landing $1000 projects in their design business

8. Starting an online media publication

9. Selling their photography prints in galleries

10. Hiring employees for the first time

11. Getting influencer collaborations with 5-star hotels

12. Starting a personal styling company

13. Creating 5 new clients

14. Raising funding for their monopoly-style board game

15. Launching a membership site for learning german philosophy

16. Getting famous speakers on their podcast

Your impossible goal can be ANYTHING.

You just have to commit to it

Pursue the kind of goals that are so big, you don’t even want to admit them to other people.

The ones that make you think “Can I really do this?” “Am I good enough?”

Not because big goals are better.

But because of the person you’ll become when you show yourself you CAN really do this, you ARE really good enough.

(You don’t have to hit the goal believe it – you just have to try).

They’re the kind of goals that are worth pursuing.

I can feel my chapter of blogging coming to a close. I’m so pleased I set myself this 730-day challenge, and now that I’m nearing the end I have made the definite decision to stop posting daily (although I will probably still post when I have something super valuable to share).

Pros of daily blogging:

• It’s an opportunity for me to be creative every day

• I have developed my writing skills and honed my “voice” as a writer

• Having almost 700 blog posts is a great resource for repurposing content

• I have a record of my experience building my business and going after many goals

Cons of daily blogging

• Sometimes I end up writing something low-quality, just to get a post out

• It has served its purpose and I no longer feel the need to keep going

• It takes time away from my other goals I’m working on

Overall, I’m SO grateful for the experience, and soon this chapter will close.

“If I wasn’t already involved, how hard would I work to get involved now?” – Greg McKeown

One of my favourite authors, Greg McKeown, writes about the importance of uncommitting to things in order to commit more deeply to the goal that actually matters.

His advice isn’t to just go around uncommitting from everything, but to deliberately contemplate whether you would sign up for something again, if you weren’t already signed up right now.

So often for me, the answer is no.

So at the beginning of this week, I did a clear out of my calendar.

I rescheduled appointments that were too close together.

I questioned if I really needed to complete that annoying task this week (or ever?).

I rearranged my week as if I were scheduling it for my best friend.

Now I’m already looking forward to Monday.

I’ve been waiting all week to find out if I got into my mastermind with my coach again.

I’m feeling joyous and relieved.

2021 feels like a good year to do some more impossible things!

Asking.

You can have anything you want if you’re willing to ask 1000 people.

Most people just aren’t willing to ask.

It feels like too much.

It feels scary.

We don’t want to bother anyone.

What if you asked, though?

Imagine asking 1000 different celebrities to be on your podcast.

Or asking 1000 TEDx organisations to do a talk.

Or asking 1000 connected people on linked in if they will introduce you to Rihanna’s record producer.

Or asking 1000 magazine editors to get you a 15 minute chat with Anna Wintour. 

It would probably work, right?

Someone would help.

And most of the time, it doesn’t take 1000 people.

Sometimes it just takes one person.

Because people want to say yes. We’re wired to say yes.

When I was starting out coaching 3 years ago, I asked a well-known entrepreneur if I could coach them for free in exchange for their $1000 online course. It worked.

Last year, I asked strangers at the mall to subscribe to me on YouTube – and long story short, I got 40 new subscribers in a day.

What if asking is the only thing standing between you and massive success?

What could you ask right now for that would move you closer to your goal?

1. Complete the back healing work by Dr Sarno

2. Mindset journal every day in May

3. Implement steps to make my daily work tasks more effortless

4. Start tap dancing (excited about this one because I danced for 13 years as a kid!)

I’m stoked with my progress this month. I don’t try to control the uncontrollable, but thanks to my goals in April, the things I can control do feel in control, which is an amazing feeling (because it’s not always the case!). Here’s my rundown of April:

1. Time-block all of my activities – and really, genuinely stick to the time I said I would do them.
   DONE
   I didn’t write a SINGLE to-do list the entire month. Whaaaat?! That might have been the longest I’ve ever been in my LIFE without writing a to-do list. I simply put all of my to-dos onto my calendar and found time for all of them. Loving this system. I never feel stressed about lots of things to do, because each task has a designated time it will get done, pre-planned on my calendar. So freeing!
   

2. Take my evenings and weekends fully off.
   DONE
   I have been SO much better at this. Not perfect. But waaaay better. The only time I have worked in the evenings or weekends was if there was something genuinely urgent that needed to get done.

There’s no right way to hit a goal.

Some of my clients adore the law of attraction and human design and surrendering to the universe, and some of them get excited by scientific research and habit trackers and pushing as hard as possible.

And you know what? They ALL hit their goals.

So I’m celebrating all you science-based tech-heavy goal getters AND the woo woo energy you-do-you-boo manifesters.

Some days I take a truck ton of action and tick everything off my list and other days I sit still and meditate, reminding myself I have done enough DOING and now is time to BE.

What if it ALL works?

What if really, anything will work when you commit to it 100%?

Difficulty doesn’t actually exist as a thing in the universe.

Our experience is what makes something feel hard or easy.

A mountain might seem hard to summit.

But with a helicopter it’s is pretty chill.

(Enter the invention of heliskiing) 

It’s the same with any goal.

Our goals aren’t just sitting around looking at us smugly like “I’m super difficult, you’ll never achieve me.”

Goals are neutral.

We get to decide if we experience them as hard or easy by how we approach them.

Sometimes we think they’re going to drain us. Exhaust us. Take YEARS of effort.

But what if getting fully booked in your business was as simple as putting out short videos on Instagram? (True story about my client Niamh).

What if becoming a professional fashion model was as easy as taking another model out to lunch? (True story about my client Chloe)

What if becoming a paid writer was as easy as putting your writing out into the world for people to see? (True story about my client Julia)

What if you decided your goal was actually super easy?

How would that change the way you approach it?

Tell me about a goal you ALMOST hit but didn’t... and how you feel about it.

Mine:

I almost become the television host of Bravo TV. I was devastated at the time, but so grateful I didn’t get it now that I look back (I may never have found out how much I love coaching).

Let me know in the comments by clicking the title of the post!

1. Time-block all of my activities – and really, genuinely stick to the time I said I would do them.
   I tend to pile unnecessary extra tasks onto my calendar, and don’t do the things I was supposed to do on my calendar until later. Instead, this month I’m going to follow my calendar religiously. This is going to be a huge test of discipline, but ultimately, I think it will provide a lot of freedom.

2. Take my evenings and weekends fully off.
   It’s so easy to see work sneaking into evenings and weekends when you work for yourself. Not because I have to – but because I don’t prioritise my work properly during my workday.

That’s all. Last month I set 7 goals and didn’t hit them all. This month, I’m focusing only on what is important, and cutting out everything else. Simplicity is a theme that I have to constantly remind myself of, and I’m going to 100% commit to it in April!

1. Grow my Impossible Girls Facebook Group to 5000 members!
   NOT DONE. I didn’t complete this and I know exactly why: I didn’t make it a priority. I didn’t focus on it, almost at all. I spent my energy focusing on all of my other goals and it’s taught me an important lesson: Don’t set too many goals at once!

2. Show up every single day in my group and add more love than ever before.
   DONE!

3. Do some of our Tony Robbins relationship course each day.
   Half done – we did it 50% of the days. Not perfect, but it’s still 15 days more than we were doing before we started the course, so that’s a win!

4. Mindset journaling every single morning, no excuses.
   This is the one I’m most proud of – because I’ve always wanted to create a habit of mindset journaling. It made a massive difference, and I had a really successful month overall.

5. Go walking 3x a week.
   DONE!

6. Join a hip hop class.
   DONE – except that instead of hip hop, I signed up to a tap class because of my shoulder injury. (Fun fact: I tap danced for 15 years and used to teach it!). Excited to go back!

7. See friends 3x a week.
   DONE!

I just walked out of a cafe in Wellington and saw my photographer Aimee Jules’ first-ever billboard!

I’m so lucky to get to work with such phenomenal talent – Congratulations, Aimee!